angiechick and katylester, thank you for adding your voices. Of course we all need to find what works for our families, but its really worth people understanding that we are talking about major differences in the ways brain work, differences that may not change despite our best attempts - or that some of us would not want to entirely change.
My Aspie son is the best and loveliest guy in the world, and leaving for college this summer. We have tried to teach him a combination of changing himself to fit the world enough to get what he wants and needs from it AND changing his world, his immediate surroundings, to suit WHO HE ALREADY IS.
He knows how to look people in the eye for a minute if he needs to, like during a job interview, but he also knows how to disclose to friends that he is who he is.
It's notable that most of us into the whole "accept em how they are" stuff have pretty high-functioning kids. I imagine I'd be singing a different tune if I had a totally non-verbal, tantrumming, stimming kid who couldnt walk down the street. I might well feel like it was worth throwing the whole alternative meds aisle at the little guy, if that's what it took. We can all get so "momma-bear" about our kids . . .
My personal favorite "everyone ought to do what we do" is Omega-3s. They have made a big diff around here. btw, another aspie who loves his standard poodle. Interesting, eh?
Also, has everyone here had a chance to enjoy Wrong Planet on line? I think I saw one mention earlier. It is a great place to enjoy the ridiculousness and fabulousness of the untrammelled autistic brain.
And, speaking of autism AND of poodles, has everyone read The Curious Incident of the Dog in the Night Time?
love, and thanks to every one of you for loving your kids so well.
My Aspie son is the best and loveliest guy in the world, and leaving for college this summer. We have tried to teach him a combination of changing himself to fit the world enough to get what he wants and needs from it AND changing his world, his immediate surroundings, to suit WHO HE ALREADY IS.
He knows how to look people in the eye for a minute if he needs to, like during a job interview, but he also knows how to disclose to friends that he is who he is.
It's notable that most of us into the whole "accept em how they are" stuff have pretty high-functioning kids. I imagine I'd be singing a different tune if I had a totally non-verbal, tantrumming, stimming kid who couldnt walk down the street. I might well feel like it was worth throwing the whole alternative meds aisle at the little guy, if that's what it took. We can all get so "momma-bear" about our kids . . .
My personal favorite "everyone ought to do what we do" is Omega-3s. They have made a big diff around here. btw, another aspie who loves his standard poodle. Interesting, eh?
Also, has everyone here had a chance to enjoy Wrong Planet on line? I think I saw one mention earlier. It is a great place to enjoy the ridiculousness and fabulousness of the untrammelled autistic brain.
And, speaking of autism AND of poodles, has everyone read The Curious Incident of the Dog in the Night Time?
love, and thanks to every one of you for loving your kids so well.
Last edited: