Been crying all afternoon, thoughts on solution?

[l-o-v-e]

try asking why your neighbors dont like your chicks it could be resolved without major changes to your house or anybody beating the crap ot of any one I hope you dont lose them I started crying

after I read this bc I got 8 beautiful rhode Island red chicks and I wouldnt be able to bare losing mine I hope this helps GOD BLESS!

 

[gapeach717]

Thank you all. Actually, something cute didn't show up at my door. I went and bought them. I thought I understood the city codes, and I was wrong. The Hoa codes clearly are not followed as they should be by 90% of the residents, including the president of the board himself. Dealing with the Hoa is the least of my concerns right now. Making sure I can legally keep my flock by making whatever changes needed is my concern now. And if I cannot, I am doing right by them in finding them loving and proper homes. But thank you for your opinion.


As for the rest of you, thank you all too. I was disgusted to read the article on the family in AL who had the neighbors go against him and get a petition signed. One big wig actually said that keeping your own chickens was going backwards in a progressive lifestyle. Wow. I was speechless on that! ( well except for some very colorful words and sarcasm!) I was going to try and keep both speckled Sussex, but then the woman who was getting my golden polish didn't have any other chicks her age so I couldn't see sending her alone after being part of 19 for so long. So now I am officially down to four. I sit with them a few times a day feeding snacks and petting them. They aren't as peppy as when the flock was bigger.

I called the clerks office yesterday and spoke to the woman I have been talking to all along. I wanted the, to know that even though there has been no ruling on anything yet, that I was trying to be as cooperative as possible on my end and that I had lightened my flock to the remaining four. She said not to worry, and be positive and patient, and maybe things will smile on me brightly. She is very kind. I am hoping to hear one way or another in the next few days. My fingers stay crossed and my time with my chicks is very dear to me.

I appreciate all sides of the advise here, but please understand that I am not some kind of criminal who is a bad person. I have given into something I have wanted all my life (chickens) and they are helping me in more ways than you know....lincluding my depression. Just know that there is more here than someone wanting to win a battle just because. That I am not trying to be a bad person. And that I am a real live person on the other end of the computer. One that has a whole life of things before this, and you never know a persons whole story. So while i understand and appreciate the well deserved negative feedback, please know that I am a person, and one who loves her pets, and is trying to do things right since I messed up to begin with, but hoping not to lose my pets.

Thank you!

 

[horseshowmomnv]

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You have had one heck of a time with this, for that I am sorry. You are correct, this is your journey and for others to stand in judgement with unnecessary words is uncalled for. You came to this forum to share a traumatic experience seeking advice, and needing to vent. Regarding those on this board who are ill tempered, try and put aside and go forward in your own confidence knowing your own reasons. I honestly hope the days ahead get less stressful, and you can come to a satisfactory resolution to your situation for you and your chickens. The people in this world who have "authority" get is wrong sometimes, and get involved in area's of our lives they have no business. This is happening in lots of different segments, small businesses, raw milk, fluoridation, womens rights, etc etc etc... you represent what is happening all across our country.
Please keep us informed as to your situation. I can't promise those who have attacked you will stop, but there are many who care!

 

[farmguycitygirl]

Why not go for election to the HOA board? This could solve multiple problems for you.

 

[gapeach717]

Like I said, i know what I did was against the rules. I am very much agreeing with you on that. I am glad there is loopholes here and there for things like this. I also did not intend to live in a neighborhood like this. Not that it matters but this house was bought by my husband 3 months before he met me. He was young, and pressured into putting the money he had from his mother dying that was saved into a home instead of an apartment. He was pressured into these type houses bc it would be an easy lifestyle to maintain. He figured he would be alone and not meet someone and even if he did he would move in a few years. Well....3 months later he met me, and a few knots after that we became parents. Our starter home met the economy it did and well, the rest is history. A decade later and we are still stuck here. Like I said many many people are breaking Hoa covenant rules and I am not in the least concerned with that battle. What I AM trying to do is fix or see if I can have my chickens by going right along with city cods, so I am doing that now. By all means necessary. But I do NOT feel like what I am doing is anyhow like you put it. I am not trying to break the rules and have the rules bend for me, I am trying to see if by following the rules if there is a manner of life that will allow me to still keep a few of my chickens as the pets they were bought for.

I am sorry I have so terribly offended you in my reaching out. I seen plenty of threads just like mine on here. I know I deserve all that is being said, I just wish you didn't make it seem that I was trying to get away with a crime rather than trying to do something legally after my initial screw up.

Thank you again for all the help.

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[gapeach717]

Months, not knots.

 

[tracylo09]

I have read all your thread, posts and responses, I have no advice to offer as I live in the UK and our rules & regulations are probably completely different to yours but I do wish you lots of luck & hope you get to keep and enjoy your 4 remaining chickens. Unfortunately there are no secrets on Facebook and even those 'friends' who don't respond to your posts, pics & status updates are always lurking in the background. It's surprising how much we give away to people we accept a friend request from without giving it a second thought. Good Luck

 

[gapeach717]

I completely agree, and thank you so much!

 

[PaintedWolf]

Best of luck on your endeavor! I do hope all works out for you and that you are able to keep your 4 hens. I do not believe that keeping chickens on your own property against HOA rules is comparable to stealing, as was suggested. All "crimes" are not the same, and breaking HOA rules by keeping chickens in your yard is mild at best. You are attemping to work through your mistake the best way possible, and with a little luck, the system will work in your favor and you can enjoy your chickens in peace!

 

[dancingflower68]

She married into the home and the neighborhood if you would actually read the thread in it's entirety and not just jump on the hate bandwagon.Really this whole thing just makes me sick. She came here looking for support and advice, not to get dumped on. As a newbie to this forum I'll be real careful in my future posts if this indicative of the type of support I'll get around here.

No, it is not akin to stealing...but I bet there was a contract signed at the time of purchase that the OP and her family would abide by the rules set forth by this HOA. A contract is a binding document and by signing it the person essentially gives their word they will not break these rules. To go ahead and do so, knowing they might get caught and have to stop doing so, shows no intent on honoring one's word in the first place.

In other words, they signed an agreement so they could purchase property that has benefits that an HOA can bring but they intended to get these benefits without honoring their side of the contract. It is similar to stealing but not quite. It's lying and we've all done it in our lives.

The real sticking point is trying to garner sympathy for lying, getting caught and acting like the contract you signed and those who enforce it are being unreasonable and cruel to expect you to honor your word. That shows lack of maturity and character...and again, no crime. Just not real admirable and because it doesn't evoke any empathy from those who try to honor their contracts and keep their word in this life should come as no surprise. That it does seem to get a reaction of surprise and hurt also denotes a lack of maturity.

Such is life....gotta grow up sometime and no time like the present. Hopefully the OP will learn that breaking rules and going back on your word has consequences that are undesirable and hopefully won't do it in the future. Hopefully they will quickly rectify their mistakes and teach their kids that it isn't a good thing to promise something and break that promise, then get mad because they are made to honor their promises.