Unfortunatley, not everyone can go to poultry shows with work, lack of shows in their area, etc. I'm serious about my birds but I am not able to go to shows unless their are in my area. Many people work on weekends or have responsibilities that don't allow them to travel.I've had the best luck making connections at poultry shows. I met many of them first online but I don't think they really take us seriously until they see us doing the leg work and showing a sincere interest in working with the birds by showing up. Especially when they don't have huge numbers they are willing to part with. They want to make sure those they do part with are going into hands likely to take them seriously and keep working with them in a responsible way. That's been my experience, at any rate.
I do understand that there are some breeders that want to see and meet people before sharing (selling or giving) birds, but that isn't always going to be possible. If breeders truly want to make sure that their knowledge and their lines are passed on, they are going to have to make an effort to meet people (especially newbies with NO clue about things) where the people are and not expect that people will come to them because not everyone can or knows how to find the breeders.