Calling Ms. Manners....

[welsummerchicks]

Politeness is a two way street. People should probably be allowed more than 3 days to get Christmas thank yous out.

 

[Camelot Farms]

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No. Not when they have conversations with you via phone, test or email on the day of gift giving.

CF: Good Morning Merry Christmas! How is your day going?
FM: Merry Christmas. Its been great. Gifts are opened, kids are playing.
CF: Awesome. Were the kids excited about the things they got?
FM: Oh yea. They are in there tearing up the place. Moving from one thing to the nest.
CF: And was Santa good to you too?
FM: Oh yes. I recieved some lovely things.
CF: Awww. How nice.
FM: Well better let you talk to someone else... Mom...CF's on the phone

Hmmm, Seems like a mention of the item could have been slid right in there somewhere. I wasnt suggesting that written thank you's were obligatory. I simply thought that an acknowledgment would have been nice considering the gifts themselves.
If they had been socks, candles or any other store bought item I would have given little thought to this. I also mentioned earlier that this is probably more of me looking for an acknowledgement of Grandpa and his loss.
I just wish that they had been as excited about them as I was. I should know by this time in life that my prioroties are mine and mine alone. Everyone has their own prioroties and obviously not everyone finds acknowledging a gift to be a priority. Needless to say there will be more people on my naughty list next year.

 

[welsummerchicks]

Beats me why it wouldn't. Maybe they forgot about your gift? When we were young, my mom collected all the cards from the gifts and we wrote thank you notes, it was somewhat after christmas.

 

[Beekissed]

I once made a completely hand-stitched baby quilt for my then best friend. I was working full time and going to school full time and single mothering three boys, so it took me a long time to complete. I even created the design so that it would be unique and learned to embroider so that it would be entirely hand made.

It was beautiful and everyone else thought so too, so it wasn't just my biased opinion.

When I gave it to her she barely looked at it and muttered a brief thanks~which is better than none, I know~and I never heard another word about it. I happened to know that no one else had made this child a quilt at all.

A few years later I saw it in her dog's bed with dog puke on it. Needless to say, I was more than a little sad about all the work that little ugly dog's bedliner represented.

You know what? To this day I am still glad I made that quilt. I created something of beauty and intricate design and I did it out of love for that person....no one can take that away or let a dog puke on that feeling.

It is true...know your audience. But...don't ever let that stop you from creating love and giving it away. If it makes you feel good, then the gift was not wasted.

 

[Camelot Farms]

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[justbugged]

I still think that when someone gets a gift in the mail, that it can't be that hard to e-mail a simple acknowledgement of the event. I know that I don't have to have but it is nice to know that the gift was delivered. I have alway found that it is sometimes difficult to have a street address for everyone that gives a gift, but with e-mail that is rarely a problem.

 

[Raiquee]

CF) But maybe they really are excitied about it! You don't know this for sure. Maybe they put those beautiful necklaces right on their necks, maybe even cried a bit. It could have just been the hustle bustle of the holidays that caused them to forget to say something?

 

[SilverPhoenix]

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I agree with this post. I am always thankful for gifts I get, and be sure to say thank you for the gift (and again when I open it if it's wrapped), but when it comes to writing formal thank you notes... To be honest, my life is so chaotic and filled with animals, projects, work, etc. and I'm so forgetful that formal thank you notes just never happen no matter how hard I try. Even if I do manage to write the thank you notes, they never get sent.

It doesn't mean I'm not thankful, just that I have too much on my plate as it is! I always try to make it clear that I am grateful for the gifts I receive, though.

And I agree with anyone who thinks it is rude for people not to thank others for gifts at all. That is rather rude, after they spent the time/effort/money to get that person a gift... But when it comes to written acknowledgments and expecting them, I think it's good to keep in mind that everyone is different in their ways of expressing gratitude.