my emotional pg self wants to cry. i just realized that baby is due 5 days before the day my dad died. i will be danged if that kid wants to come then. my mom died when i was a kid too, and her bday is a week and a half before baby is due, but i would be ok if baby was born then. so now i am a snotty mess bc of of this. *sigh* this is getting ridiculous.
i know just how you feel! my mom died right before i had my 3rd...i get sad every year! i am so sorry you are going through all this.
It's ok and understandable that this is a rough time for you, it'll all be all right. Think how pleased your parents are, in their own way, about this wonderful new baby! What a tribute to have a baby arrive amongst such important dates. And focus on this time; you will soon have a bouncing baby ??, and you don't want to forget any of the joy of it! Feel free to cry, to laugh, just be glad you feel. Hang in there!
Im sorry for your distress, but a baby will be born when it is born. Im sorry that I cant fix it for you, but no one can. Since you cant change the date, and you cannot really then you need to find the right way to turn it around for yourself. Im sure your father would want you to take joy in the occasion no matter what, any loving parent would. I know it can be hard, and the older you get, and the more people in your life that you lose, you realize all you can do is take joy in the new lives around you. I really dont want to preach or pontificate, that can just rub a person raw, but you have to find the answer to it all in your own mind and heart. I really wish I could help more, and I really do sympathize. ((hugs))
Grief and mourning have their time and place. Birth of a baby is only a celebration. I would hope that you do not make a connection of a birth to deaths; 2 different catagories. Hormones get silly. My ex cried for a day about me throwing away old paper grocery sacks! I think the birth sounds more of a team event if you feel more of a connection around the due date. Sometimes when I miss my Granny I end my messages with: By the way did I mention that I love my grandma? Try it! It is my own celebration of having a wonderful grandma that lived a full life and life to the fullest.
