OK I would like to help. I am 68, female, single, I have had chickens here in Arizona, in the desert or semi desert on and off for thirty years. I have had a lot of different kinds, in a lot of different places and circumstances. I have learned a lot, and it is valuable. I would like to share. However as you said I do tend to be blunter than some seem to be used to. I was raised on a cattle ranch in northeastern Arizona in the 50's. Whenever I have been able, the first thing I get is chickens. I love having them. I have egg layers, and I have raised meat birds and butchered. I have also raised a lot of other things. I pretty well know the good, bad and ugly. It all comes with the territory, but we do try very hard to minimize it. Experience helps that. Someone to mentor helps a great deal.
1. First evaluate your needs
2. Evaluate your circumstances.
3, Be realistic in your selection, and don't lose your sense of balance when you get your chickens,
try very hard to restrain yourself.
4 Prepare a safe place, that is workable and realistic for your time, circumstances and abilities.
5. Try to keep it moderate, don't strain the parameters, putting stress on yourself and others. It ruins the fun.
6. Now, Get healthy chickens. Don't break your rules and bring in other chickens. Just don't.
7. Determine a way to replace your chickens as needed. Either new nursery stock or a friend, or raise your own. Be careful here.
Very Very Careful, don't let your emotions get the best of you.
8. Make adjustments as needed. Make changes when you need to,
9. Find good mentors as on this website.
10. Enjoy