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Hi ChickiKat!
I don't want to leave the impression that everyone who points out a potential hazard is a fear-mongerer. In fact, I believe most people who warn against dangers are well-meaning, and I certainly count you among them.
It's just that there are SO many dangers in life... life IS dangerous, and I think it's easy to lose sight of this fact, and lose perspective on the cost and benefit of taking precautions.
I am fully in favor of hand-washing! And also, sterilizing surgical instruments, lol.
Also, bicycle helmets and child safety seats in vehicles. But I think it's really important, every time we think of protecting our children from something, to consider the likelihood of the danger compared to the benefit of letting them do it. Could my child fall off a swing and crack her head open? Sure. It's possible. Would "protecting" her from learning to swing, getting the exercise and fresh air and independence and body coordination it takes to swing, be worth the minuscule level of protection that taking away the swings would provide? Not in my book. No way.
Everyone makes their own choices, but me--I choose hardy, healthy, brave children over sheltered ones, even if that means there's a slightly higher chance of accidents. Which, by the way, I don't believe there is and the data bears me out on this (did you know that since the institution of "safety" measures on playgrounds such as softer landing surfaces and the absence of teeter totters and merry-go-rounds that the incidence of life-threatening accidents has actually *increased* on our nation's playgrounds... I have my theories on this but it's beside the point... just think about it, though).
The only thing that really angers me, is when professionals and other parents try to strong-arm or scare someone into doing the (ahem) "safe" thing. I had a boss when I was pregnant with my first who was convinced that I was endangering his life by having a planned & attended home birth. Although the data didn't support her belief even in those days, she was extremely aggressive about it and would even introduce me to others by telling them I was the one who was planning to endanger my child by giving birth to it at home.
No one does that to me any more because as I've matured I've developed a persona that deflects unwanted advice. But it still makes me angry when I hear of people doing it to others, because it's harmful to them and it's harmful to the child and it's harmful to our society when we start making decisions based on fear rather than on facts.
Here's what I think. It's great to tell someone what you think, to provide information you have that they may not have. Provide your expertise--please do--we all benefit when information is shared freely. Just skip the scare tactics and the pressure. And if someone makes a different choice--well, maybe they have their reasons. And whatever they are, they are their own to make.
And just to be clear, ChickiKat--I am NOT accusing you of scare tactics or pressure. I think you are just providing your own perspective, and doing so in a respectful manner and I have no problem with that. It's also possible that the OP's friend/co-worker was doing the same. I hope so.
In any event--happy chickening! My chicks are in the house, living with us and my three children, and on rainy days like today they don't even get to go outside during the day. So far no one is dying of tuberculosis.
Stay tuned!
