First off let me say this, I do not have any kids of my own. My DH has 4 from a previous marriage and I think of them as my kids. They come over every other Thursday and stay until Wednesday when my DH takes them to the bus stop. They are 16 y/o girl, twin 14 y/o girls, and a 6 y/o boy. The twins are not his paternally but since he helped raise them, they are his. The oldest and the youngest respect me. The twins on the other hand are getting more disrespectful as time goes on. They used to be very good but all of a sudden their attitudes have changed so drastically that I want to strangle them. I try not to reprimand the children, my DH's SIL gave me a lecture how it's his responsibility and not mine. I only get involved in situations when they talk back to their dad (which I can't stand) or when they make comments under their breathe (for some reason I hear those very clearly) or when they are rude to me. My DH's ex-wife had a boyfriend who beat the children.. but yet I am wrong to want to say anything when they talk back to me, and I shouldn't raise a hand to "her" kids.. double standards, don't you love them! Whenever the kids are rude to me, my DH has stopped saying anything. Well, I don't think he's ever really said anything to defend me. I am not the type to take abuse from anyone and I do have sort of a sarcastic undertone in everything I say. For example: Them- "Megan your hair looks greasy." Me-"Well, it's wet and you would know what wet/clean hair would look like if you showered more often." I can't help myself w/ come backs. That is how I grew up and that's how my family is with each other. I told my DH that we need to take the internet and the TV away from them when they treat me like this. When you yell at them all they do is laugh and that's not solving the problem. I try to take things away from them but my DH doesn't think I am being fair since they are "only being kids." When I was their age I was doing all my own laundry, doing the dishes every night, and getting straight A's (which isn't that much I realize). All they do is lounge around and eat all the food, hog the TV, and don't even know how to fold socks. How do you reprimand only 2 children out of 4? Taking the TV away is not fair to the 6 y/o and no internet also hurts the 16 y/o. Please help if you can!