Classmates B-Day Parties

[herfrds]

I am wondering what to do.

My DD is in 3rd grade. One of her classmates (a girl) has a birthday in December. DD was not invited.
This month 2 more classmates have birthdays again she was not invited. I can understand the boys, but not the girls.

She wants a girls only birthday party this year. 5 girls including DD. 3 of them have not invited DD to their parties.
I know 2 of them had a party this weekend because of pictures that were posted on FB.

I'm not sure I want to go to the expense of an overnight party when she is not being invited to their parties.

Thoughts? Ideas? Suggestions?


DD is not real sure what is going on and I don't plan on telling her.

 

[babylady4]

Well, since it is the parents who send out the invites....... you could invite those kids anyway.......

I would take the high road on this; just to set an example for your DD, (and make the parents buy big gifts...).

 

[redhen]

If DD wants to invite them, i would.
Kids can be MEAN....but maybe they will show up and they can all have a good time together and she can become better friends with them? That would probably mean a lot to her...
On the other hand... Kids can be MEAN.... they might not show up to the party either...

But you can at least try..

 

[debilorrah]

My son always was invited to parties and when his 8th birthday came around, I invited about 20 kids from school. No one showed up. Some other kid in the complex saw the balloons and stuff, and he came down and they had a blast together. They split the party favor booty and both were glad no one else showed up.

 

[chixie]

our school had a policy... if you sent invites to kids at school you had to either invite everyone in the class .. or if you wanted boys only/girls only you had to invite all girls/boys. saved alot of hurt feelings

 

[babylady4]

Oh Deb, I am so sorry...... what a bunch of little &%&*#(&$(*#)@*&%*$(#)@)#(*&%$(*)(#!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! And their parents too!

 

[redhen]

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Yep..i agree..

 

[herfrds]

That stinks Deb. I would have been very unhappy.

She wants to go into town and go to a movie and dinner. Then come back here and do the games for Wii and watch movies all night.

Last year we had a bowling party at the local bowling alley. They had a good time.
The parties before were all held in the local park so the kids could all run around and play on the equipment.
I always ask for an RVSP, but no one has ever called to tell me they were coming. So I never know how many kids are coming.

 

[debilorrah]

While it was ME that was upset, the two boys had a blast and my son never ever mentioned it. He just talked about what fun he had and that he got most of the party favors. My point was that if no one shows up, fun can still be had. Yes as a mom, I cried inside, but in the end, my son had a great time. Thanks to that kid that wanted cake.

 

[msteresaann]

There was a time we lived in a very small house. We had enough relatives that we did not invite anyone else.
When we bought a much larger home, my son invited all his class mates, kids in other class rooms that he liked and most of the neighbor kids. Oh, and our relatives.
Imagine our surprise when FIFTY kids showed up with adults in tow. It was a good thing that I tend to over do it; I always buy too much in fear of not having enough.
Every year since we’ve had thirty to fifty kids show.
Most do not RSVP, not the kid’s fault. I now plan for it, but it would be nice to know how many will show ahead of time.
There are a lot of reasons why a child may not be invited to a party.
Not enough room
Large family and/or too many relatives
Not a lot of money
The parents are friends, hence their children are invited
Host can only sanely handle a small group of children.
Worried fifty kids will show up! LOL!
If a limit is set, a child will usually invite others they play with most often.

Does any of the girls play at your house after school or on the weekends?