It's really intimidating for those of us who do have debt to chime in among the multitudes of "0 cards, 0 debt" posters. We wind up being the discordant voices in the Allelujia chorus.
So yes, I will say that I do have debt. The amount between me and the issuing agency. Like many, I'm paying for the sins of my past. Quite literally. I will also say that I'm not adding to the debt, I'm actively working to pay it down, and my goal is to have no debt. I have 1 credit card that I have not activated, and will not do so until I have paid off all debt.
DBF and I now pay cash for 100% of our purchases. He's been unemployed for nearly a year. Ironically, my debt was incurred before his unemployment.
Our boiler went out nearly 2 months ago. We've lived with no central heat for that entire time, and it has seriously sucked. My mom pushed and pushed and pushed me to take out LOC on my house to repair it - the bids ranged from $2,300-4,000. DBF and I refused: we want to come out the back side with $0 debt. So, it has meant taking a hot shower when the room is only 58 degrees when you get out. It's meant wearing sweaters, robes, slippers, socks, covering up with blankets, and doing what's needed to stay warm. It's meant that we sacrifice having friends over (one of our favorite pasttimes), not getting new socks and underwear, and cutting our bills where ever possible.
When DBF has finished moving & repairing the boiler (the move was necessary, and meant re-arranging our utility porch), we will have added $0 to our debt, updated to an efficient tankless water heater, added a 1/2 bath to our 1-bathroom home, and gained a reliable boiler that we didn't have before. All for about $1,000 paid in cold, hard cash, and lots & lots of sweat equity
My parents have been bailed out god-only-knows-how-many times by my mom's parents. I don't want that to be our back-up plan: our back-up plan is our sacrifice and self-reliance. My mom doesn't get it, but how could she? When her furnace went out, my grandpa gave her a check for "antifreeze" and covered the entire thing. Her mom paid off her car. Her mom has bought my parents a brand new refridgerator and a top-of-the-line woodstove. I was raised with the mentality that someone else can bail you out financially.
I've worked hard to rewire my brain when it comes to finances.