dad really ill.. could use a prayer... update

Discussion in 'Family Life - Stories, Pictures & Updates' started by wildorchid053, Jan 6, 2010.

  1. wildorchid053

    wildorchid053 Chillin' With My Peeps

    May 12, 2009
    syracuse area, ny
    my parents retired to arkansas 25 yrs ago and now they are in their late 70's no family around we are all calif, ind and ny..they took dad to the hospital yesterday afternoon.. he had fallen and could not get up.. to weak.. turns out he has congestive heart failure.. i don't imagine he will last very long and i am ok with that. he has had lung disease for several years and has worn his oxygen tank for a couple of yrs now.. it is mom i am worried about. she is 77 and down there all alone . we are able to fly down but she doesn't want to leave the area after he passes. i need prayers to help her decide she would be better off here.. yes she hates the snow she used to live here.. but she has 2 of her kids here and several great grand kids.. but she has her church and friends there.. what to do?????? is she better off there or here? i know she can't keep up with all the things involved in keeping a house and yard.. ugh i am sooooo torn...please help me find peace with whatever she chooses.. thank you all my byc friends..
    Last edited: Jan 8, 2010
  2. Hoosiermomma

    Hoosiermomma Chillin' With My Peeps

    Jun 6, 2009
    S.E Ind
    [​IMG] Prayers being sent to you and your family. Maybe you and your siblings could have a sit down with your mom and discuss the's and con's. Since all of you have lived away for awhile now I would assume the bond she has with the friends and church in the area is pretty strong. She may not want to leave that. Good luck with whatever is decided! [​IMG]
  3. Whispering Winds

    Whispering Winds Chillin' With My Peeps

    Don't give up on your dad yet!! Congestive heart failure is treatable now, and its amazing what they can do! My thoughts and prayers are with you, as I know how hard it must be to be far away!! Hope he gets better!!! Love your mama, and kiss your daddy!! They are so precious!!
  4. sfw2

    sfw2 Global Menace

    Hoping for a good outcome for your dad. While it's certainly worth sitting down with your mom and discussing the options, I can certainly understand her wanting to stay near her church and friends.

    My parents are also in their late 70s, and live 3,000 miles away, so I can totally relate. Fortunately, they recently moved closer to my oldest brother, so I'm a little happier.

    [​IMG] for you and [​IMG] for your dad.
  5. redhen

    redhen Kiss My Grits... Premium Member

    May 19, 2008
    Western MA
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  6. annie3001

    annie3001 My Girls

    Jun 11, 2009
    [​IMG] saying a prayer for you and your family.
  7. Cindiloohoo

    Cindiloohoo Quiet as a Church Mouse

    Dec 19, 2009
    Southwest TN
    First of all prayers for your dad to come home! Now, the issue with your mom, and I know you have probably thought of this, but quality of life for her could be drastically changed by a big move. She has all of her friends where she is now. It would be devastating for you to leave everything you know, and may cause more stress on her than if she just stayed put. If I were her, I would want to stay home. If she chooses to move that is great, but you haven't lost your dad, and God forbid if you do, mom needs time to get back to somewhat normal before any more stressors are thrown in. Just a point to consider, I am so sorry you are even having to think about these things! God Bless! [​IMG]
  8. gritsar

    gritsar Cows, Chooks & Impys - OH MY!

    Nov 9, 2007
    SW Arkansas
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  9. Melissakins

    Melissakins Chillin' With My Peeps

    Oct 15, 2009
    South Alabama
    Thinking about you and your family.
  10. wildorchid053

    wildorchid053 Chillin' With My Peeps

    May 12, 2009
    syracuse area, ny
    just an update.. his body is failing and they are putting him on dialysis sp.. so i don't think it will be much longer.. sister is going there this weekend and brother in calif is flying out as soon as mom gives him the go signal..they are his true children. he is step dad to the rest of us.. it is still hard he has been my dad for 44 yrs..i hope they make him comfortable and i am glad he finally started to believe in god.. he never did till about 10 yrs ago.. i hope he is at peace with his life..thank you for the prayers and the support.. i love this site with all the friendly people and all the help and support you give.. god bless you all.. linda

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