Danged ole do good neighbor killed my chickens!

[Dar]

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Oh heck I am with you... if ANYONE I dont care if it was a kid or not came into my house when i was not here I would be ripping butt holes.

What ever happened to teaching our children to respect personal boundaries?. respecting private property? If I found out my kids were in someones house when no one was home they would be grounded and confined to the house unless an adult was present. They dont even go to the neighbors unless we know they are home... no ""going to call on.. so and so.. unless we KNOW they are home.. thats what a telephone is for..

I dont care if the kid was used to walking in and playing... what happens if say hubby was walking from the bathroom to his room nude after a shower and she got an eyeful.... THEN she tells momms and daddy that she seen Mr, Smiths full monty... that could cause a whole load of problems with the police... heck NO that child needs to learn about personal space!

 

[Mattemma]

I would let the parents know.They should compensate in some way even if it is a just a *so very sorry* and a basket of goodies.Something. My kids would never dare go onto anothers property let alone open doors.Hope the parents teach their dd this.

 

[Ole rooster]

My my, times have changed more than I thought. When I was a wee age of 4, my mom hammered into my head "do not go into anybody's home without the parents home". Period. She didn't care if it was my 2 best friends. If the parents were not home I was not welcome. I cannot fathom me opening a door to someone else's home. I was either too scared or my teachings worked. Even at 9 that child knew better, or should have been taught so. I most diffinetlly would have told her the actions cause a real problem. Not all the gory details had to be explained, but know the problem it caused. That's not harming neighbor relations. That's teaching her something the parents refuse to do, or haven't done. How is the child going to learn good things from bad if consequences of her actions are kept from her? She did a very bad thing and will never know the results of her taking own the responsibility of an adult, which in no way is acceptable. I say children today or pampered and coddled to the point they hardly do know right from wrong. If they did, most wouldn't have tattoos and rings all over their bodies.

But it's your chickens, your neighbor and your way to handle it.

If it works for you, it works.

 

[sonew123]

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Oh heck I am with you... if ANYONE I dont care if it was a kid or not came into my house when i was not here I would be ripping butt holes.

What ever happened to teaching our children to respect personal boundaries?. respecting private property? If I found out my kids were in someones house when no one was home they would be grounded and confined to the house unless an adult was present. They dont even go to the neighbors unless we know they are home... no ""going to call on.. so and so.. unless we KNOW they are home.. thats what a telephone is for..

I dont care if the kid was used to walking in and playing... what happens if say hubby was walking from the bathroom to his room and she got an eyeful.... THEN she tells momms and daddy that she seen Mr, Smiths full monty... that could cause a whole load of problems with the police... heck NO that child needs to learn about personal space!

I'm so with you too! You should be compensated AND make sure 100% that little girl knows what she did was wrong-in a nice way. Im truly sorry for your loss

I have no tolerance for children like that--more importantly parents who haven't taught their children boundaries!

 

[yinepu]

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Oh heck I am with you... if ANYONE I dont care if it was a kid or not came into my house when i was not here I would be ripping butt holes.

What ever happened to teaching our children to respect personal boundaries?. respecting private property? If I found out my kids were in someones house when no one was home they would be grounded and confined to the house unless an adult was present. They dont even go to the neighbors unless we know they are home... no ""going to call on.. so and so.. unless we KNOW they are home.. thats what a telephone is for..

I dont care if the kid was used to walking in and playing... what happens if say hubby was walking from the bathroom to his room and she got an eyeful.... THEN she tells momms and daddy that she seen Mr, Smiths full monty... that could cause a whole load of problems with the police... heck NO that child needs to learn about personal space!

I'm so with you too! You should be compensated AND make sure 100% that little girl knows what she did was wrong-in a nice way. Im truly sorry for your loss

I have no tolerance for children like that--more importantly parents who haven't taught their children boundaries!

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I would have told that kid exactly what happened and how it was NOT acceptable to come over and let herself in... Just think of it this way.. if she thinks it's acceptable at age 9 to do that.. what happens when she's 19?

 

[aubreynoramarie]

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We don't know how the dynamics between the two families works. OP stated that the little girl came over to play and went to the side door AS USUAL - so obviously she's familiar with the home, the dogs and the occupants. Could be that the child didn't "wander off", but told the parents exactly where she was going. Accidents happen. Sometimes you've gotta take a hit and let it go to keep good relationships. In my opinion, good relationships with other humans is far more important than anything else.

I don't see how it could possibly be a good relationship if they can't understand that they were responsible for a major financial and emotional blow. Why couldnt someone get compensated AND have a good relationship with the person? If I had a good relationship with the neighbors an I found out my daughter was responsible for killing their entire flock (Which I am still responsible for because I chose not to watch her) then I would feel pretty inclined to do SOMETHING to make up for it. You CAN ask for restitution and still be polite about it. What kind of world are we living in that just asking someone to own up is going to hurt a relationship?

Also if this happened all the time then the little girl woul have already known NOT to let the dogs out.

 

[mrpekinduck]

I would definately look around to see if it was ok but then again Im a poultry owner and I think were all a little bit more paranoid then everyone else.

 

[JayneMae]

I agree with not telling the kid exactly what happened, but I would tell her parents and ask that they speak to her about it. With having the parents have this talk with her, they know exactly what kind of child she is and have a much better idea of how she will take knowing certain facts.

 

[newchickgal]

Something else to consider, if she gets hurt on your property you are responsible. She essentially has permission since she has been over before without you being there but to your knowledge (?). Best to have a fence with a locked gate.

 

[JD4570]

What I want to know is what happened to parents teaching their children the rules of life. By the age of three, that's right just three, I knew not to go into the neighbors yard. By the age of five I knew not to mess with any animals other than our own. Maybe it was the generation I was raised by but by the age of eight I flat out knew right from wrong and the value of a dollar, try teaching the later to a eight year old today.

Parents are letting the children down, not to mention everyone else, by not teaching the "rules of life" . I know you don't want to hurt the child's feelings but you can not shelter them 24/7. They must learn from their mistakes and I pray the parents will tell, and instruct the girl why she should not have done what she had done . Look at me I sound like my grandparents, I wonder why.