Daughter broke up with boyfriend and I'm the one depressed!

[feelinglost]

I am having such a hard time again I want to help and want him to do good but I'm going to have to just let it go. I am stressing so much over how he is going to be and I know deep down I have no control over it. Please pray that I can just stop caring...

 

[connie1966]

You will never stop caring , just try to keep it to texting just answer him if he needs to talk that's all you can do I don't envy you if my daughters x wanted me in his life oh my god it would have been war with my daughter cause I would not be able to let him go

 

[feelinglost]

I don't tell my daughter things about him. She knows he still goes to our church and a lady told me last night she called her and asked her if she was ok with them helping him out some. My daughter said yes of course. She knows he doesn't have any one outside of who she introduced him to. I don't think I'm able to be as involved with him as I thought I could be. I want him to do more for himself then he is doing. I am so torn! His teachers are saying he isn't trying at all and says he only needs to pass 3 classes to graduate. I think that my daughter seen more then I did with him. He is bringing a girl to church tonight and I don't want to even see her. He says it is a friend but could turn into more. She is willing to go out more then my daughter was and pay for things. Well my daughter was working to save money for college. I told him I don't want to hear that kind of stuff. I said my daughter did other things like brought a whole family into his life to help him. It hurts to hear how he resents her now. This is not how I thought he would be at all. He was always so quick to take up for her even right after she broke up with him. I am sorry to keep talking about all this. I just don't want to talk about it to anyone else. His grades are so bad that he doesn't even have a 1.0 and I can't tell anyone because I wouldn't want to do that to him... I hurt for him. He just doesn't care about school anymore.

 

[connie1966]

Sorry I just saw this I usually get an email notification! I'm sorry but he sounds like a loser to me if wanted to be with your daughter he would have gotten his **** together! And stepped it up he plays the victim and pity's himself well my impression anyway he needs to fight for himself want better I'm sorry but she deserves a man noit a broken child who won't help himself I'm not religious but even God says help yourself and I will help you she needs someone that takes care of her too that can give her a good life stability that she can depend on, he's too immature for her she has goals he will only keep her back, it's a turn off for her for sure I guess she's tired of feeling responsible for him , again I don't know him but that's what it seems like to me

 

[feelinglost]

Well Connie it's been bad really bad. I found out why they broke up and it wasn't him. He didn't tell me someone else did and I contacted my daughter and she confirmed. She cheated on him with some random guy. She will not give details nor will she name the person. She refuses to talk to me and that is why he reacted the way he did to the break up. He is struggling in school and all because he again was dropped in my opinion just like his mom did him. He said it felt like their whole relationship was a lie. I am sick so sick and I don't know what to think of my daughter...

 

[feelinglost]

He does have some insecurity issues but he is so good! He told me he has prayed for her everyday. We don't know what to do.

 

[connie1966]

Oh my god !!! Poor kid he must be destroyed in normal circumstances when someone leaves you you feel rejected imagine when someone cheats on you poor kid my heart breaks for him, as for your daughter I'm sure she feels like crap already don't turn on her as hard as it is for you

 

[feelinglost]

Oh I have called her every name in the book. I'm so mad and he is so good. He has been through a lot. I'm not sure I am able to even see her right now

 

[connie1966]

I did the same to my daughter when she started seeing the new guy so soon after but I regret it though , poor her I'm sure she feels really bad, she will do like my daughter and not involve her next guy in your life ever lagain ol

 

[feelinglost]

No she won't! I will never like anyone again! He told me last night he loved me! I said he will always be my favorite! I told him he deserves someone that will treat him like he treated my daughter. Unfortunately it will never be her... She messed up the one boy that totally respected and never used her for sex. Makes me so mad I have a daughter that was capable of doing this. I never dreamed in a million years she would do this to him. Nor anyone!