Devastated!!!

[arabianequine]

OOOOOhhh I feel bad and been hurt terribly. Really like an emotional roller coaster. Thank you for the support you guys!

 

[Henicillin]

Here's another chicken person hug for you - I'm big and round and soft and squishy, so I give good hugs.

 

[WingingIt]

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Take a few minutes and do something nice for yourself today. Sit and read a favorite book, lose yourself in some good music, sit and listen to nature, whatever rejuvenates your soul. You deserve some self-pampering.

 

[chickmashnoon]

I know I don't know you, but I just want to offer some support. And advice. Whatever you decide to do in the future is your decision, but forright now you will be going thru a loooot of emotional stress and it takes a physical toll. Break things down to simple eat drink sleep shelter. Make sure you eat small amounts frequently. Try to minimize the effect of the stress on your health. Take advantage of your friends support. I know when I split with my ex for similar reasons it literally took a major physical toll on me, please be proactive in making sure that if he ruins your marriage he doesn't ruin your health too.

Hugs and prayers

 

[HHandbasket]

Someone very close to me went through this a few years ago. She never saw it coming and was COMPLETELY blind-sided as you were.

If that's the kind of man(?) he is, he isn't worthy of you anyway. You can do WAY better, and sometimes learning to love ourselves is a step up from being with a husband or wife who would cheat and/or leave us for another (and you can take comfort in knowing that when he gets bored with her, he'll do the same thing to her, I can almost guarantee it).

To the person who found her husband in bed with another man: I am so sorry to hear that, too. When I was 21, I dated a guy for a while, and we had the greatest chemistry, kissed a LOT, were very affectionate with one another, but then I found out about Sam... and Eric... and Alex... and this whooooooole other "life" he had that nobody knew about. Luckily, we were only together about 4 months, but it still hurt like the dickens.

I am now quite happily married to a man who went through something similar with his ex-wife. His ex-wife left him for another woman, apparently had been a lesbian her whole life but never admitted it to herself and tried to force herself to fit into the husband-and-kids-and-whole-straight-life thing & it just didn't work for her. She's good to the kids, though, and she and my husband still get along well. They're friends now, but it took a lot of pain for them to get to this spot.

 

[I have WHAT in my yard?]

There are at least three if not four threads going right now on this same topic...... Different spouses/couples but same behavior same pain.

What gives??

 

[annie3001]

hugs to you...

 

[arabianequine]

I have WHAT in my yard? :

There are at least three if not four threads going right now on this same topic...... Different spouses/couples but same behavior same pain.

What gives??

Not sure, but a married person must be way more attractive then an unmarried one or something?

Thank you all again! I will live I guess but it is really hard. Emotions for both of us are so up and down. I don't even want to go any where alone worried it will still continue but I can't live my life as a babysitter. I just don't know how I will know if it happens again.​

 

[bkreugar]

No it is partly because in this troubled economy, couples are more stressed and either turn TOWARDS each other or AWAY from each other. Sometimes that turning away is into someone else's arms. People never seem to realize that they are LESS financially sound apart most of the time.

I'll be thinking of you arabianequine from one arab lover to another!

 

[redhen]

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Not sure, but a married person must be way more attractive then an unmarried one or something?

Thank you all again! I will live I guess but it is really hard. Emotions for both of us are so up and down. I don't even want to go any where alone worried it will still continue but I can't live my life as a babysitter. I just don't know how I will know if it happens again.

Thats the thing.. you wont. (most likely..)

Your situation is a bit different than some of the other ones on here though...
So i would say to hold on and talk talk talk to him...
I'm not sure what else you can do at the moment....

But we are here for you...

I'm telling ya... take a vacation to MA...