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[Beekissed]

You are right! We were just commenting on that yesterday. We had bought a recliner and a couch that had two built-in recliners and were donating them to an apartment where people stay for a cheap price when they visit their loved ones in a nursing home. It was in the middle of a snow storm, no one was there to help us move it into the unit. The guys that loaded it on the truck wouldn't let us load it ourselves and acted like we were helpless women and shouldn't be doing such things. Mom and I just looked at each other and smirked...little did he know we do these things all the time and we do them better than what we had just observed when watching these guys do it. As we watched them fumble and bumble and barely get it onto the truck we just sat there and tried not to speak up and suggest a better way.

We got them back to the unit, unloaded them from the truck and the couch wouldn't fit through the door of the apartment. We took one of the recliners off of it and moved it into the house anyway, then put it back together. It took us no time at all. We just sat there looking at each other and grinning, Mom said, "I bet they wouldn't believe we just did that. I'm so glad we are both the same kind of women or this would never work!". I just laughed....she and I just don't have quit when it comes to jobs like that. I love working with her, we make a mean pair of two.

 

[Arielle]

Love it!! Great story!!

SOmetimes we just dont' need men.. Funny I had started to write that initally in the previous post but deleted it as I didn't want to offend anyone!!

 

[Lacy Blues]

Sounds like me! No furniture moving stories but my husband and I went to Lowe's to get some plywood and lumber so I could build a coop. Well, we got that wheeled nightmare loaded up and paid for. Took it out to the truck and started to get it loaded when a kindly gentleman, about my husband's age, came jogging over and said he would do that for me and I think something along the lines of a little lady like you shouldn't be working so hard.

I stood back, smirking, and when they finished, my husband told him that I'm the one that does the building around here. He looked kind of surprised as his eyebrows shot up.

I don't mind if he wanted to do it for me, saves my back for more work later. Which is a long way from who I used to be. I was trying to stretch a fence once to enclose an area for my mare and her new foal. Well, this neighbor comes out and offers to "help" me. I welcomed his help. But he immediately took over and that ticked me off pretty bad. I let him do it because when it comes to confrontation, I'm a wuss. But boy was I angry!

 

[Beekissed]

Yeah...I don't mind letting the men do things if they want and they know what they are doing but it's hard to watch if they don't know what they are doing and especially hard to suffer through when they imply that you will need their help because, obviously, women don't know how to do such things.

As a single mother and as ME, I could write a book on the stories about such things. I never set out to prove anything about the power of women but it was sort of thrust on me by life and has been for my mother as well. We've done all the man stuff for many a long year, not because we wanted to but because there was no one else to do it. So, you learn to do it if it's going to get done.

Men work harder.... women work smarter. We do not always have the physical power or strength of men, but we get the same amount of work done by using ergonomics and common sense.

I don't mean to bash men at all but they do tend to underestimate us and they like to try and hold power over our heads...as if to show us that something will not get done if they don't do it for us. We just don't sit back and accept that...we got tired of waiting on men to help us long ago. Now we just get it done.

 

[Arielle]

I remember when we were building this house and I was getting no where with one of the contractors-- a contractor that I hired. WEnt home, filled in DH and asked him to handle it because this guy wasn't going to listen to a woman. DH called the man up, said what I said, and that got the job done. I really hated that I had to bring my DH into the issue but I could see that was what it would take to get my house built the way I wanted it done.

 

[Beekissed]

I remember when we were building this house and I was getting no where with one of the contractors-- a contractor that I hired. WEnt home, filled in DH and asked him to handle it because this guy wasn't going to listen to a woman. DH called the man up, said what I said, and that got the job done. I really hated that I had to bring my DH into the issue but I could see that was what it would take to get my house built the way I wanted it done.

Oh, have I been there! That happens everywhere...men just simply do not want to listen to anything a woman has to say, which mystifies me to no end. I've seen the same thing as you...won't listen if I tell them but have a man tell them the same thing and they act like they've gotten sudden confirmation from the Pentagon. It's just a basic and very real disrespect for the intelligence and common sense of a woman and it stems from so many factors that one can't point at any one thing and name it as the cause.

 

[Lacy Blues]

I think this sums up my feelings on the matter.

 

[Beekissed]

Yes...LJ has an intimate knowledge of the obtuseness of menfolks. I wish it weren't like that...some women have a lot to contribute to this world if they were just nurtured for that knowledge and ability.

 

[Arielle]

Thank you Lacy BLues!!! I find it hard to be as respectful as Bee in this matter. Sometimes I am glad that I never got to be a civil engineer as I studied animal science instead. I do remember the poster on a friends dorm wall ( she was studying to be an engineer) : "Work twice as hard and get half the credit" Being all mathematically minded, being fair is part of my make up. I would not have survived in the engineering world then or now.

I remember having a boss that didn't like me. She didn't want to hear my ideas or my concerns. SO opposite of the previous boss. Left me baffled. But I went to her right hand man- a woman to whom I explained the problem and how to address it. She presented the problem and the answer and all was well received. Of course she got all the credit too and the huge raise.

I much prefer working with the animals at home.

 

[Lacy Blues]

My pleasure Arielle! I prefer my animals too!