Oz, I'm starting to wonder why I trusted this guy and what else he's been hiding from us. The moment I told him we're going back he's stories changed completely. From "all is well on the farm" he went to negativity. It sounds like things went from bad to worse since we left.
He actually said to me, about Heide, "We didn't know you were coming back" So it makes it o.k. that he can break a promise, just because we're not there to catch him out! With friends like those, who needs enemies? Well, needless to say we're not friends any more. And it's sad. I liked them and trusted them enough to leave my boy with them. And trust him to keep an eye on our farm and on MIL. I wonder what's waiting for us there.
All I can say is sorry for what happened. What I have learned in the past, is never give anything to anybody unless they can do with it what they want. If they can't then they shouldn't have it. Know what I mean.