Did I provoke my neighbor into this?

[highcountrychickens]

The bottom line is that the law is on your side. Print and keep the email to create a paper trail, and CC the neighborhood with the rest of your notes, which should include copies of the state statutes about your rights to keep chickens, so you're protected. Interestingly, when people see a CC list, they tend to check themselves and stop bullying.

Suggest he plant shrubs and build a privacy fence...

And, honestly it's tough for me to say this, because I get fired up over stupidity like this too... write your emails, but don't send them until you have slept and have a chance to read them again for perspective and judgement. It'll help everyone stay on the high road.

 

[Chew593]

I haven't read all 15 pages of this thread, but I wanted to give your man a high 5 for taking over with your neighbor... let him handle it, and block the neighbors e-mail address so you don't get any more filthy racist comments from him. Protect your home and your flock, and good luck! Document document document everything!
(My husband is a masonry contractor, and I would recommend a block wall!)

 

[Teresaann24]

I am so sorry your going through this I have also had to deal with mean neighbors. I hope this all works out well for you!

 

[Iowa Roo Mom]

Roo's, lots and lots of roo's! LOUD roo's!

A couple of geese, too. Some nice, big geese. Heck, at this point, maybe an ostrich or two!!!

 

[Dirt Road]

Never forget, it takes two to make a fight. You've got some good advice, and some ludicrous advice. Trying to "one up" the other guy just ensures the continuing escalation of bad feelings. Don't forget the old saying, "never argue with a fool"!

Jim

 

[Crystalchic]

do on to others as they do on to you. your probably doin your friend a favor by getting rid of the miserable dead beat hubby
yep i got me an evil mind
mess with my flock your messing with me
mess with me your playing with fire

 

[cimarron]

this is one of the funniest things i've seen in my life. i am wiping tears out of my eyes. god i love this rooster.

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[cassie]

You might consider planting some hedge roses along the fence. There are a variety of them. My neighbor planted "Simplicity". It is very pretty, makes a lot of blooms, grows well in a variety of soil conditions. I think it is available from Jackson Perkins. You should be able to find them on the net. That way he can't see in and you will have something pretty to look at.

 

[RubberChickenLubber]

My biggest concern is the rat poison. I honestly don't think it's even legal to put it out in the open like that. What if one of the kids picks it up, doesn't wash their hands and eats something. That stuff is unforgiving. My guess is that it was an empty threat used simply to imtimidate you, but I would still keep my eye out. Keep open communication with the wife, she's the best way to find out if he's done anything like that.

 

[ruth]

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I read the same thing you did & I say she did do the christian thing by turning the other check. We are only seeing her story but I do not see if she has attacked him.

It isn't the christian thing to stand to the side & let others have there way. After all Jesus went into the temple & through over all the merchants tables & ran them off before starting to teach. Did you read any where it said he stood to the side & asked Peter "I wouder what we are going to do?" or "Peter maybe we should just go on our way today & maybe we will come back tomarrow & they will have gone away."

Come on don't tell her to back down & give away here rights & then say that is the christian thing to do. Don't we have enough people that call them self Christian's doing that today & our country gets worse & worse.

I feel the need to clarify - I never said "stand to the side & let others have there (sp) way", or "back down & give away (her) rights", I said the Christian thing to do would be to go and talk to the next door neighbor - the husband of your best friend - the father of your childrens' best friends - the neighbors you claimed you used to do everything with... I simply said it would have been better, more Christian, more neighborly, to simply talk to him rather than send ugly e-mails back.

The original question of this thread is "Did I provoke my neighbor into this?" I simply answered that, in my humble opinion, she should have handled it differently.

Now that many of you are suggesting the most hideous, hateful, and illegal actions - well I'm simply amazed at how far some of you will go rather than simply talking to your neighbors. I'm so glad you don't live near me.

So if you want to quote Jesus, he said one of the most important commandments, right after love God, was to "love your neighbor". No, he didn't say let them walk all over you and going to talk to someone is not letting them walk all over you - it's simply talking about what they said is bothering them and trying to come up with a neighborly and friendly solution.