Last October my husband and I bought a mare. I was looking for a confidence builder, but not anything that i'd 'outgrow' since horse shopping is a PITA. When we went to look at her I didn't like her. My husband felt that she was a good choice because she was not deadheaded. He thought she would be a challenge, and once my confidence was built up i'd have no end of horses to ride (we live on a ranch) rather than just one bombproof horse that I felt safe with. We gave her a few days to settle in when we brought her home, then my husband took her out to work cattle. She started to colic, so he brought her back home and she quickly recovered. A few days later I decided i'd be brave and ride her. She would not leave the house, not a single step. The only way I could get her to move out was to circle back home then keep pushing her forwards for a step or two. She'd freeze again, we'd circle back, and so on. Eventually we'd got maybe 30' from the house. She saw the calves and decided she wanted to move out, so I thought she might feel happier trotting around them and turning them back. The next thing I knew she was bucking. I rode it, but was afraid of getting hurt while everyone was gone, and didn't know what else she might do, so I got off and lead her home. That afternoon I lunged her instead, and she ran me out of the pen bucking. Whenever i'd try to make her move out, she would rear. By this point we decided that she was a project for my husband to work with until her manners improved. I make no excuses, I am scared of horses. My husband is not. He took her to work cattle, and she decided that she preferred running backwards and throwing her head to turning left. After quite a few battles over several weeks she was neck reining fine. I rode her in the arena, and although it took ten or fifteen minutes of relaxation exercises before I was ready to get on her, she was perfectly behaved. Last weekend when my husband got on her she decided she needed to buck again. He got that straightened out, cut some calves on her which went well, but she had another one of her tantrums leaving the arena. He worked her until she was behaving better, then we turned her out. She is absolutely rotten if she is kept penned overnight, but horrible to catch also. My husband told me that he didn't want me riding her for now, and he'd keep working with her. Today she nearly fell over backwards with him, running backwards and spinning around. I hate to give up on her (well mostly I hate to let her win!), but after today my husband has pretty much had enough of her. She is aggravating because she has so much potential, but we have the same argument with her almost every time we ride her. When do you decide to throw in the towel?