Disappointed

[herfrds]

Talked with the teacher. Turns out there was 3 kids bullying him, but one quit band.

Teacher wants to get DS out of study hall for 10-15 minutes and do some one on one time with him because he says he is doing really well. says that way he can concentrate on his work in band and not worry about the bullies.

DS said last night he wanted to quit so he can get 2 study halls.

Told him to think again. He was going to take a different class and only have 1 study hall.
His study hall time is for him to get assistant on the school work he has trouble with.


It has gotten better for him in the bully issue. It was pretty bad for awhile there.
One incident changed all of it.
He was out sitting on a bench and another student jumped him from behind knocking him to the ground and putting him in a choke hold.
He did something I was taught in self defense. He reached back grabbed and twisted. Immediately was released.
No more being grabbed.
Mama knows some rough stuff.

 

[sfw2]

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Reminds me of "Miss Congeniality" - SING!

 

[Sonoran Silkies]

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I lkie the idea of him being pulled out of study hall for some one on one instruction. But what I do not like is that there is the implication that the teacher can or will do nothing to stop the bullying. IMO, if the teacher KNOWS there is bullying going on, and does not create an atmosphere in the classroom that circumvents bullying, and immediately applies severe consequences to bullying, the teacher is part of the problem.

Dropping the bullies from the class would be a light consequence; certainly the minimal that seems warranted; suspension would be better, with any repeat bullying behavior resulting in failure and extended suspension or possibly expulsion. What does your school policy say about bullying?

Overall, I am not fond of study halls. I'd rather have my child enrolled in a real class.

 

[redhen]

They just passed a law here in Mass.
No tolerence at all. If its reported the school HAS to take action and the bullies are even facing legal charges.
This all came about because a girl here comitted suicide because of bullies..

 

[babylady4]

What instruments do these two pimpleheads play anyway?????? Why would your son LET THEM WIN by quitting?????

The teacher needs to grow a pair and deal with these two NOW.

Don't let him quit!!!!!!!

 

[herfrds]

All 3 play drums and percussion.

teacher just told me he has seperated them.
So DS is on one side of the classroom and the bullies are on the other.

I saw the super and told him what was going on. He's looking into it too.

 

[Sonoran Silkies]

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THAT IS NOT ENOUGH. Separating bullies from their vistims without real consequences is ignoring their bad behavior. Unless your son is also bullying them? Which it does not sound like from his attitude of wanting to quite because of their bullying.

 

[redhen]

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THAT IS NOT ENOUGH. Separating bullies from their vistims without real consequences is ignoring their bad behavior. Unless your son is also bullying them? Which it does not sound like from his attitude of wanting to quite because of their bullying.

I agree...
those kids have just been taught that its okay to bully, they'll just get their seat moved....

Makes me sick, actually.

 

[Mattemma]

Best wishes for your son!

I have dealt with my children being bullied in public school.District ofcourse has the anti-bully laws in place.Looks great on paper,but in real life it was a JOKE. I pulled my ds out of that school district after 4 LONG months.

I don't look at it as letting them win if your ds decides to leave the class. If the teacher,super,and parents will not remedy the situation then the best option for a bullied child is removing them from the bully situation. It is very stressful for a child(and parent).

I would not allow someone to beat me down physically and mentally while I begged people for help,so I decided I would not allow my children to suffer either. People look the other way when it comes to children being bullied.In our case they simply started to deny it was occuring,and that my ds was happy to be in school despite his claims of being kicked,pinched,punched,and spit on. I was left with believing the school or my child.I gave up on the school,but years later I still let everyone I know locally about how this district handles bullying!

Like you said next year should be better.There are also places outside of school where he could engage in his music. Regardless of what he decides I hope you will do some meeting and paper trails letting the school/staff know what you think about their (in(action).

 

[babylady4]

Haveing been bullied relentlessly throughout my middle school years and most of High School, I do have an idea of what the poor kid is going through. I did everything people told me to do so the bullies would end their torment but NOTHING worked. What did end it was I started dating the second most muscular guy at the school.......

Standing up for yourself is the best answer. Your son needs to call these kids out on their torment of him. Confront them and deal with them. Then kill 'em with kindness!

I wish I had so the people who did it to me would have stopped earlier.......