dissapointed in my friends...

[Tanichca]

Usually im part of the group. Us 4 gals, Tani, Randy, Megs, and Jess. And we go to teen group together, but they go more often than i do. I went last sunday, expecting the usual camaraderie from the gals, but what i got was:
1: When we broke into small groups, usually its us gals and maybe Gabe or Josh, some friends. This time? when the speaker said"break into small groups and discuss" they picked... Everyone around them EXCEPT me. AND I WAS SITTING NEXT TO THEM.

2: When teen group was over, the gals made a huddle. I joined in, like i always do, to talk about stuff with them. And as soon as i poked my head in, they stopped talking and looked at me like i was a complete stranger! After i left... they started talking and giggling again.

3: When i left, we gals usually hug and say "see you later" and all that. they didnt even say goodbye!

Im so confused... what did i do? I cant remember doing anything to annoy ANY of them. Randy and i were BFFs once, and Megs and Jess and i have always gotten along.
This is just a rant

so mods can move if its in the wrong section...

 

[Chickerdoodle13]

Ugh, I hate when people are like that. Unfortunately, girls that age (and always for some) can be so mean...and they don't even NEED a reason for it. I remember going through the exact same thing when I was in high school and even younger than that.

I would probably just approach them calmly and ask why they are acting like that. Tell them you value their friendship and it makes you sad to be treated like that without an explanation. If they are STILL childish about the whole thing after that, then just hang closer to some other friends until things settle over. From my experience, things like this don't last too long and everything goes back to normal, except you'll be smarter for it next time!

 

[Tanichca]

Yah, im hurt and a bit annoyed. I hope it blows over soon though.
In the meantime, ill talk with the other friends, like Gabe and Miriam and Kateri.

 

[Chickerdoodle13]

That sounds like a good idea.

Boys can be rough, but girls can be absolutely brutal! I have a lot of male friends because of it. Sometimes I just can't stand to be with my own kind! LOL

 

[Tanichca]

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I SO agree. I have more guy friends than i did because of it. Megs and Jess were always mean, but Randy and i have always been really good friends.
Thank goodness for friends like Gabe!

he's never mean (but he is the best at giving constructive criticism)

 

[Wifezilla]

Sounds like you are "it". Someone in the group is talking about you and singling you out for some reason. In situations like this you find out who your true friends are.

 

[Tanichca]

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well that makes me

 

[cluckcluck42]

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well that makes me

Don't let it get to you. That's what they want. Ignore them, move on to different friends and forget about it. None of us survive teenhood without experiencing the Mean Girls.

You probably did absolutely nothing to deserve this and I know it's hard but just put it behind you. Don't give them the satisfaction of seeing you upset. Shrug it off like it's no big deal. It's the only way to deal with these people.

 

[tinychicky]

sorry

some people are just jerks and maybe you'd be better off not being friends with them at all

 

[Tanichca]

Thanks