It's worth remembering that this discussion has been frank, open and entirely without malice, finger-pointing or blame.
Honest exchanges of views in a positive manner is ALL I have read here, and this thread should be a *sticky* on how to discuss a sensitive subject positively
There will be sharp differences of opinion. There have been here and all have been put well.
Just a note about discussion ...... the original poster must always expect a good discussion to range about a bit. As the thing progresses then points will be raised that members want to explore, even if the topic drifts a bit. There will also be those mindful that the thread is read by members of all experiences, and wanting to point out that what is discussed might not be either the *norm* or even *good practise* ... kind of a *buyer beware* thang.
That isn't either a pro or anti stance, it's just a warning to the unwary.
Fir example .... in this thread I have argued quite fiercly with Richard ... and Richard is a grown up who has made his case well. I have enjoyed it and so, I suspect, has he. No one has been flamed or called out, grown-ups don't do that.
I will leave this thread with a great deal of renewed respect for some people, and that will carry over into other Forums.
Good discussion ..... Good Job all
Honest exchanges of views in a positive manner is ALL I have read here, and this thread should be a *sticky* on how to discuss a sensitive subject positively

There will be sharp differences of opinion. There have been here and all have been put well.
Just a note about discussion ...... the original poster must always expect a good discussion to range about a bit. As the thing progresses then points will be raised that members want to explore, even if the topic drifts a bit. There will also be those mindful that the thread is read by members of all experiences, and wanting to point out that what is discussed might not be either the *norm* or even *good practise* ... kind of a *buyer beware* thang.
That isn't either a pro or anti stance, it's just a warning to the unwary.
Fir example .... in this thread I have argued quite fiercly with Richard ... and Richard is a grown up who has made his case well. I have enjoyed it and so, I suspect, has he. No one has been flamed or called out, grown-ups don't do that.
I will leave this thread with a great deal of renewed respect for some people, and that will carry over into other Forums.
Good discussion ..... Good Job all
