Do you guys open doors for girls?

[Backyard_Chicken_rancher]

I live in the South if you don't open a door for a lady it is a sin

Me I always do, with my wife I did it till one day she told me she can open the door herself and that she is an independent woman so I said ok and I have not opened a door for her since

and when she opens it I like to run in and well how nice of you to open a door for a man like that I always seem to get slapped but it is funny to me

. I do feel that if you raise your son right he will do this for a woman.

 

[seismic wonder2]

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That's when you shove her out of the way, close the door, and slide a broom handle through the latch. LOL How rude can you get?

I'm NOT making a political statement, I'm holding the door. I don't imply weakness, or shovanism, It's just a door. She could have expressed her displeasure by NOT saying "thankyou" instead of blowing her mouth off.

 

[deb1]

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That's when you shove her out of the way, close the door, and slide a broom handle through the latch. LOL How rude can you get?

I'm NOT making a political statement, I'm holding the door. I don't imply weakness, or shovanism, It's just a door. She could have expressed her displeasure by NOT saying "thankyou" instead of blowing her mouth off.

I don't understand why this behavior does anything more then temporarily annoy someone. So she doesn't want you to open the door for her. She is a bit of jerk but by getting so angry over something that is trivial, you are just lowering yourself. Why do that?

Isn't true politeness just making the other person feel comfortable and valued. If someone else doesn't want a door opened for them, why insist or even get angry? You offered what you considered to be a respectful gesture, she didn't want it, so just move on. There are plenty of people who don't mind having a door opened for them.

the time that I got a lecture from a guy for opening the door for him didn't make me feel good. But I didn't want to shove him out of the way or slam the door in his face.

 

[Iowa Roo Mom]

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Honestly, yes, a little. It's a male ego thing and I'll be the first to admit it.

This doesn't apply when I'm carrying something and could use a hand opening the door.


Guys will trip over each other a bit when other guys are holding the door for us but most of us will just say thanks and move on.

Here, PC, lemme get that door for you...

 

[PotterWatch]

I will open the door for anyone regardless of age or gender. My boys open doors for people (often without a thank you). I don't expect people to hold a door for me just because I am a woman, but I do expect people to hold a door out of just general courtesy. I ALWAYS thank the person who is holding the door regardless of who it is (one of my kids, my husband, a stranger, etc.). When my kids hold open a door and are not acknowledged, I often wonder if the person is rude in general or they don't think they need to say thank you because it is a child holding the door.

ETA: My husband does not open car doors for me, but I would never expect him to. My Dad still opens car doors for women if he gets there in time.

 

[St-Hubert]

Door-opener here. And male. I was raised to be polite to everyone (until it's time to not be polite, but that's a different story), and that includes opening doors. For everyone. I do it for men as well as women, but I do like to open the car door for my wife, doors to restaurants, malls, wherever. I just see it as a nice gesture, and not implying she is not capable of opening her own doors. Being nice, I am.