do you let your infant cry themselves to sleep?

[MagsC]

I have 5 kids also and agree they were all VERY different. However, the crib was in my room next to where I slept. Its hard to explain to people the "different" kind of cries a baby has...of course I was always a paranoid mom and always checked when they were crying. I was lucky though in the fact that mine were sleeping through the night at a quite early age. A very young baby I wouldnt let cry themselves to sleep but maybe if they were older. It depends on the situation.

 

[MandyH]

This is your baby and only YOU know when she needs something. Some babies are born clingy, and she very well may be one of the ones that needs some extra attention. I think (MY OPINION!!) letting them cry themselves to sleep would only make them feel abandoned when they need their Mama, and yes I've read all the books.

 

[bigkford]

With all these replies your getting you do what feels right for you and your child. Nobody is going through what you and yours are going through. Only you will know what feels right for you. I wish you and yours the best. Just don't ever be afraid to ask for help when you feel overwhelmed. That makes a difference too. But you have daddy let him help too.

 

[sweetcorn]

Your mom is full of beans...newborn babies can not be spoiled and when they are wee , your responding to them when they are crying is what builds their sense of security. You can actually cause a newborn harm (for example , ever heard of failure to thrive? ) by not meeting their needs.

 

[English Chick]

I could never let either of mine cry ...... you are only doing what is perfectly natural in wanting to hold and comfort your baby.......... do things your own way ....... and many many congrats on your new baby....

 

[Sissy]

There is no way I would ever allow my
child to cry itself to sleep, and when they were 4-5 and didnt want to sleep the pillows came out in front of the Tv with a cartoon and in 10 min. they were snoozin after a little crackers n milk..
and the light on low. LoL
and I have 5..

 

[HennysMom]

Congrats on the baby

No..wouldnt let the baby cry to sleep at this age... too young. Agree with the others, I wouldnt sleep with the wee on on my chest though, you may drift off without even knowing it and that wouldnt be good for either of you.

Here's what we did with my son (they didnt have this with our daughter -wish they did!) and it worked great (we used the CD) - along with laying him down, but not holding him, we just patted his back or bottom and gently talked to him..just letting him know we were there. It worked really well.

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Sounds of the womb CD :
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[leitha2006]

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In my opinion (mother of 3); 3 weeks it early to let them cry it out. They still need to learn how to sooth them selves. Your baby may be hungry, cold, too warm or just need a loving cuddle. These are the times that a baby learns love threw being close to it's parents. I didn't let my children cry it out until they where older and could sooth themselves. You'll know what works for you and your family. Just let your mom know that this is what works for your family and thank her for her concern.

 

[AHappychick]

I agree with all the posts I would never let my ds cry it out. Have you thought of co-sleeping? granted it was just me in my bed but I found co-sleeping so much easier to nurse, and just relax with my new bundle of joy. btw he is 3 1/2 ans still co-sleeping with me so if you dont want to do it for years you have to break them of the habbit by 1 year old or you might think it is awesome like I do and let it continue lol

One great thing about it is that if my ds gets sick in the middle of the night I know about ir right away not the next morning, this allows me to start helping him sooner.

Congrats!!!

 

[kagedgoddess]

i consider myslef an experianced mom, i have 3 kids, one on the way and one in heaven, so here is my Opinion...
i did not let my kids cry it out. my two oldest (10 and 4) got the stiff lip treatment at 4yo. (if you keep getting out of bed, the door gets shut, start screaming and off goes the nightlight, ) all my kids were bf, and slept in my bed at first at night and i nursed on demand. the eldest went to her crib @6mos, when she started crawling, no probs. 4yo went to his bed @ 15mos, but back in mine for 3mos when dh was deployed (i needed it not ds) then to his own bed in my room @ 18mos, the littlest is still in my bed @8mos, soon to be moved cuz being preggers again, its gonna get cramped, lol

i could never stand to let my kids cry, it makes me physically ill and stressed out. i cannot function while theyre crying when theyre babies. dh will set dd in her swing and let her cry if shes tired and is just being stubborn tho. i ve noticed that when shes with him, she will cry more often and i think its cuz he lets her cry, she figures, why wait, might as well cry from the get go. but it is his way of doing things, so i dont critize him... i am also Not around, so it makes it easier... if i want to leave the house w/o kids, i have to accept how he does things.