Do you think Emo/Goth kids...

[punk-a-doodle]

I think people with every-hair-in-place and suits look like creepy living Barbie dolls, but I would not allow my decisions to be based upon that initial reaction, whether it is limiting my business to them, hiring them, being friendly and respectful towards them, etc. How they act is how I decide how to react. Course, one group tends to care more about how I react to them than another, and I can tell you it isn't the counter-culture types kids. XD

 

[chickened]

We all have our own pet peeves and it is perfectly natural and normal to do so. Judgement in the context used in this thread is a verb which requires action. When folks apply it as a noun it loses its meaning and becomes name calling. Saying someone is judgemental is making a judgement in and of itself if anyone really stops to think about it. If I dress in a way to garner attention to myself and happen to get some attention it would be unwise of me to think that it will all be nice attention. But that is me and I was raised that I am entitled to my opinion, have the constitutional right to express it as long as nobody is threatened by it or harmed physically. Our schools have taught that you do not have inalienable rights like freedom of speech unless of course it is in a topic of perversion then by all mean you can express yourself all you want and then nobody should have a dissenting opinion.

 

[punk-a-doodle]

"If I dress in a way to garner attention" is another assumption, and quite the blanket statement. You are assuming that everyone who dresses in a particular style is doing so for attention. That is the problem with trying to make generalizations apply to individuals, and uninformed assumptions apply to varied trends.

Yep, we all have gut reactions (as my example used), it is how we handle them that shows either fairness to others, or a tendency to dissmiss others and grant our biases more truth than they actually have. This difference usually shows up in word use.

I don't think anyone told you to stop talking. Please continue. Giving perceptions on the opinions of others is also part of free speech.

 

[cameron]

Any guy who wears polo shirts with socks and sandals ain't to be trusted.

Neither is a woman who wears capri pants.

 

[Royd]

We hippies didn't trust anyone over 30. Then, we turned 30 and were in quite a quandry.

 

[pastrymama]

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i don't know what in the world made me open this thread or even continue reading it until this cutting isn't an emo thing, it's a mental illness thing in my opinion, i disagree. and i only mean the part about cutting being a mental illness, i know nothing about emo. but i do know about cutting, unfortunately. i think that it is a person's way of dealing with anger, pain, grief, sadness and gives them a feeling of control when nothing else in their life is in their control. instead of feeling emotional pain they feel physical pain, which is easier to deal with for some. and cutting is meant to be hidden. it is shameful, embarrasing...you can be the captain of the cheerleaders at the catholic highschool, get good grades, be a shy quiet girl and fly under the radar. just saying, not a mental illness, coping mechanism.

 

[Royd]

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i don't know what in the world made me open this thread or even continue reading it until this cutting isn't an emo thing, it's a mental illness thing in my opinion, i disagree. and i only mean the part about cutting being a mental illness, i know nothing about emo. but i do know about cutting, unfortunately. i think that it is a person's way of dealing with anger, pain, grief, sadness and gives them a feeling of control when nothing else in their life is in their control. instead of feeling emotional pain they feel physical pain, which is easier to deal with for some. and cutting is meant to be hidden. it is shameful, embarrasing...you can be the captain of the cheerleaders at the catholic highschool, get good grades, be a shy quiet girl and fly under the radar. just saying, not a mental illness, coping mechanism.

Maybe mental illness has some very tight guidelines. I don't know, but I'd say that any aberrant behavior, which brings harm to oneself, is more than likely caused by mental issues. According to you, any coping mechanism, whether huffing paint, excessive drug and alcohol use, eating disorders, etc. aren't forms of mental illness. When, exactly, does a coping mechanism drift into mental illness?

 

[Matthew3590]

Thought goth was goth and if you cut yourself your emo. Anyone can be emo.

 

[Royd]

How about a disussion on what makes a Goth a Goth and an Emo an Emo.....Let's get down to the roots of the movement or fad or whatever we want to call it.

Remember, Johnny Cash was The Man in Black, long before Goth ever came on the scene. Let's hear some foundational history behind the movement...Not just, it's cool to wear black with lots of studs and spikes and be offputting to the general public.

 

[Zinnia-Hen]

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Emo was originally a style, and not a lifestyle. People started to call the attention seeking cutters after a while and now that's how they're often viewed, treated as, and sometimes act as. I've met a few and none of them were like the stereotype.