Does education make you jaded?

[Sammimom]

I don't think education, whether aquired through life experiences or in school, makes you jaded. Sometimes I want to grind my teeth in frustration when making a point that I think should be obvious and someone either just doesn't get the importance or simply doesn't care. I have learned that no one likes to feel talked down to, so I'm careful to simply state my opinion and leave it as such.

While I do have many friends with differing opinions from myself regarding issues I consider important, most of them are people I can have a conversation with and will respectfully disagree with me and in turn state their case. I personally couldn't remain involved with an organization (such as my church or job) where my opinion wasn't considered and respected, even if it was disagreed with. Certainly different cities, towns, even neighborhoods have different "social opinions," which is probably one of the reasons I am so comfortable where I live...a lot of people here think like me.

I forget how the saying goes, but something like "Don't give advice:
Wise men don't need it and fools won't heed it."

 

[eekgads]

The answer, I think, is "no, your education does not make you jaded". I think you've not met your intellectual match in friends yet.

It's easier for people to stay with what is comfortable & NOT to stretch their muscles (intellectually & physically). To stretch beyond your comfort zone requires courage (to be challenged, rejected or successful). A set routine & the status quo are always going to be embraced before something new.

Don't backslide...that's the easy road. Maybe, find another hobby that might increase your chances of meeting more of the people who might ask the same questions that you do.

Also, some of the most intelligent people I know, never got a college degree. They went to the school of hard knocks!

Remember: "A mind functions like a parachute--It's best when it's open!"

 

[Beekissed]

Generalizing like this is really unfair to a lot of good men out there.

I noticed you jumped right on the statement about men and seemed to miss the one right below it....

I've noticed that women feel this way also.

Sometimes people get 'educated' a little mixed up with 'pushy.' Not saying that's the situation with you, but just mentioning that as a possible explanation to what you might be dealing with.

You might wish to listen to your own tune!

I wasn't generalizing about men, man bashing or even stereotyping men anymore than I was about women! READ next time, please.

The OP was bemoaning the fact that her education seemed to set her apart and I was merely supporting her in that feeling. NOT bashing anyone here, folks. Not pushy, nor opinionated. Merely stating my own experiences without going into detail.

It's quite lovely that so many of you have found intelligent lifemates. Quite fortunate, really. Many look a lifetime and do not find their equal. Not because they are "pushy", because they are not willing to be less than they are to suit some other person.

a possible explanation to what you might be dealing with.

What a very smug statement to make!

You have no idea "what I've been dealing with".....

 

[Wolf-Kim]

Look, everyone has their own opinions. We can't portray emotions well via typing. So, can't we just let Beekissed have her opinion based on her experience, and everyone else have theirs based off their experience? If we all had the same viewpoint, life would be boring.

 

[DianeB]

To be honest, I usually keep my mouth shut. Sometimes, I have mistakenly talked to men here like I did in Davis. In Davis, almost all of my male (and female) friends loved to discuss things. I have one friend that is in the opposite political spectrum then me. We always could discuss current events, FDR's administration, etc. with respect and without hurt feelings. I always try to be considerate and respectful, though passionate.

It seems like the young people here (except for my close friends that are female and my family members) just really do not care. They try to avoid any serious discussion about anything from politics to religous topics like charity.

I am not trying to be pushy. I just sometimes starve for an intelligent conversation.

Also, we live in one of the worst cities in the US and no one seems to care. There is no political will to change the current state of affairs. People seem more interested in their superfical aspects of their own lives, then about better their community. By the way, I once tried to organize a transportation activist group in the area. It was well advertised and many people signed up. Only my friend and I attended meetings. It seems that even if people say they want change they are not willing to do anything to accomplish it.

DB

 

[The Chicken Lady]

You just need to find someone who is on your intellectual level. DH and I talk about the finer points of grammar, theoretical physics, linguistics, computers/math, etc. In short, we're super-nerds and we like it that way!

He likes it that he and I can talk about our interests; we don't get bored with each other.

Don't deny who you are in order to find a boyfriend or husband because you will never be happy. If you need to move to a new city to be able to find people who are interested in the same things you are, maybe it's time to do that. You're an adult, right?

 

[rainplace]

There are plenty of men who prefer well educated women.

 

[joebryant]

Don't worry about it. You'll find your level of men/women to associate and argue with. Personally I can take just about anything from anyone except people who watch and seriously quote anything from Fox News.

 

[1stepcloser]

I haven't read through all the posts but I don't think it is education that jades you. I think ignorance keeps us blissfully (stupidly) unaware. Education empowers you and as such, you lose patience for ignorance.

At least that is what happened to me. LOL

As far as starving for an intellectual conversation? BTDT. Join an online debate forum. Seriously. It is a fabulous release for those of us who crave info and want to talk about what we have learned to be true/not true, our theories, politics, and theologies! Just avoid any debate group that slings mud and calls names. That is not debate, rather that is a group of ignorant folks playing dress up in a debate forum.

 

[Camelot Farms]

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And, it isnt even always men who think this. Some women do not appreciate other women who are independent, opinionated etc.

I have to wonder if its not so much a gender-culture issue as it is a geographical culture....as in depends on where you were raised.

Since moving to this community, I have heard more than once 'don't get above your raisin'.