- Jul 9, 2008
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Prioritize. It sounds like both of you are just plain overworked. It is good for you both to have your dreams, but someone (you) has to keep the home going, kids clean, and fed, and lovingly raised, and someone else (him) has to keep the money coming in to hold body and soul together.
I agree you have to commit to homemaking to be effective. If you see it as important and worthwhile your husband will too. If you see it as temporary and stopgap and realy nobody's real job you are going to have a hard time getting it done effectively because as you pointed out it is a hecuva lotta work.
If you set up work from home jobs for yourself, you need to understand you are offering to work two jobs, because the household still needs to run effectively. You may be subconciously opting out of the household work by adding in other important jobs you need to do instead. If so, STOP making more work for yourself.
There are only so many hours in the day.
How much extra time are you putting in?
Taking in day care
Additional farm animals
Children's pets
Garden
How much of this is helpful and vital. How important is it to him? to you? Are the extra things you are doing realy bringing in enough extra cash to be worth it? Where can you start cutting?
I am here to tell you that I had a small farm and it got WORSE as the kids grew. We added horses, and riding lessons , and 4h, and swimming lessons. Some kids loved and excelled at one thing some at others, and EVERYHING was at the same time on opposite sides of town. Get it together now. And get your husband on the same page. That wagon's gonna move and you two work horses want to be pulling in the same direction.
Learn for your own peace and sanity to weed and prune the things you commit to. Do not expect help with the house, be independant, be effective, be in charge of your life and surroundings. Check out the Flylady website for housekeeping help and support. I loved that site, and it is free.
Good luck.
I agree you have to commit to homemaking to be effective. If you see it as important and worthwhile your husband will too. If you see it as temporary and stopgap and realy nobody's real job you are going to have a hard time getting it done effectively because as you pointed out it is a hecuva lotta work.
If you set up work from home jobs for yourself, you need to understand you are offering to work two jobs, because the household still needs to run effectively. You may be subconciously opting out of the household work by adding in other important jobs you need to do instead. If so, STOP making more work for yourself.
There are only so many hours in the day.
How much extra time are you putting in?
Taking in day care
Additional farm animals
Children's pets
Garden
How much of this is helpful and vital. How important is it to him? to you? Are the extra things you are doing realy bringing in enough extra cash to be worth it? Where can you start cutting?
I am here to tell you that I had a small farm and it got WORSE as the kids grew. We added horses, and riding lessons , and 4h, and swimming lessons. Some kids loved and excelled at one thing some at others, and EVERYHING was at the same time on opposite sides of town. Get it together now. And get your husband on the same page. That wagon's gonna move and you two work horses want to be pulling in the same direction.
Learn for your own peace and sanity to weed and prune the things you commit to. Do not expect help with the house, be independant, be effective, be in charge of your life and surroundings. Check out the Flylady website for housekeeping help and support. I loved that site, and it is free.
Good luck.
