Don't Know What To Do...

[kitkatbahr]

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Verbal abuse is still verbal abuse, no matter what language it is in. I will pray for you and your situation. I truly hope you think long and hard about what life will be like when he comes here to live with you. If it is like this now, what will it be like with the stresses of every day life? Please think of yourself and your future children before you continue on this path.

Good luck!

 

[raroo]

I dunno... he doesn't sound at all trustworthy to me. Someone who loves you shouldn't be saying those things. How will he treat you once he's there I wonder? I'm worried for you, I think it would be wise to go ahead and tell him to get those divorce papers... you will find someone who actually loves you and will respect you, it's just not worth it otherwise.

 

[Polish Chickens]

Thanks for the support everyone I'll need to see what I can do about this though

 

[Rhett&SarahsMom]

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sorry, but there is a reason why it takes so long to get into the US.
At least from someplace you cant walk or take a truck from that is.

My aunt married a Pakistani man years ago. After knowing him a month.
He ended up being CRAZY and was some how involved with terrorist activities. (not saying your dh is!) She divorced him after the Feds came and got him on info she gave them.

 

[WingingIt]

I personally know two people who married under similar circumstances. One worked out well. The other did not.

Please be careful.

 

[bheila]

You may love him but it doesn't sound like he loves you. There are plenty of other "real men" in this world who will treat you better then that. I really don't want to say this....but it sounds like you might be wasting your time. Again, I'm only going by what you've told us about him. Good luck

 

[I have WHAT in my yard?]

One of my dearest friends married while in another country. Because of the US' difficult relationship with that country during those years (the 70s) it was 11 years!!! 11 Years before they were able to do more than visit for a few weeks at a time. They waited and loved each other for 11 years while separated by oceans and politics and paperwork. They have been married now for over 30 years.

Another married, like you, an Iranian. He was already here, but after a few years he said he wanted to move back so he could take another wife. She refused and he went back.


Love waits, love does not demand or threaten, go gently, my dear.

 

[Polish Chickens]

My only hope is to see if he truly loves me. If not then I would be devastated and just continue on with life and my flock

 

[bheila]

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Do you treat the people you love the way he treats you? Do you call the ones you love nasty names like he calls you?

ETA: I've been through a loveless, nasty name calling relationship before. I'm sorry I wasted my time. I knew better before I started it too

 

[Chic-n-farmer]

Okay, I didn't take time to read all the posts (I need to be cooking dinner

) but look at it this way....

He loves you? He's upset that it is taking so long to get to be with you? He's going to divorce you because of the delay?

It just doesn't make sense....

I am so sorry. Please do not let yourself be used. It sounds as if he loves the USA more.