Drowning in in-laws

[citrusdreams]

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Those are great ideas. It sounds like a lot of people over there need something to do.

Put them to work backforty!

 

[twentynine]

Never meant to be mean!!!!!

I am however bringing attention to the fact --the grass ain't always greener--- threatening her husband is not constructive--- and she may have a few faults that the in laws find aggravating as well.

I have made the comment before, three sides to every story, her side, their side and the truth.

Pardon me if I don't jump on the band wagon, giving backforty, pats on the back and lullaby-s. Tell it like it is, not me, nor anyone of you know exactly what has been going on at backforty's place. But one thing I'll gladly put next weeks groceries on, backforty probably left out a few significant facts. Maybe it is, maybe it ain't.

 

[citrusdreams]

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If someone had a few faults that would make them aggravating, the truth is, I wouldn't be over at their house all the time.

The simple fact is: if she's feeling stifled, then she is stifled.

And we can't comment on their side because we don't know their side and we don't have to know their side. Backforty is a fellow member and giving constructive advice is not jumping on the bandwagon or giving lullaby-s, it's being supportive of a fellow board member in their time of need, based on the information given.

 

[CityGirlintheCountry]

Well said, Citrus. Well said!

 

[Garlydog]

I really feel for you. I hope you can work it out to your satisfaction.

I had to work through a similar situation. Good luck, and follow your instincts. They usually lead you to the right path.

 

[Shared Acres]

Time to put up a privacy fence with locked gates!

 

[Ghostchick]

I like the fence idea! But you need to let your husband know how you feel! I do believe they are a different species sometimes. LOL Just voice how you feel and maybe he can talk to them. You shouldn't feel so uncomforable with within your own walls. On the other hand, did you know what you'd be getting into?

 

[SarahBeth9394]

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Nobody said you were mean. I just disagreed with you which is allowed. The thing is I didn't tell her to leave her husband, sing a lullabye, or give her grief and snarkily tell her to suck it up or get out. Absolutely no fingershaking or cheerleading. Instead I gave some suggestions on how to make the situation better. If she were so aggravating the fil wouldn't be there every day. She's the one being aggravated. Better she comes up with ways to improve the situation than have no privacy. It is possible to live very close to relatives, get along, and have everyone retain their private lives.

 

[PeepsInc]

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TAKE A DEEP BREATH & HUG A CHICKEN...
THERE, ISN'T THAT BETTER NOW!

 

[babylady4]

Somehow the Amish manage to live with their in-laws just fine.

Maybe follow a page from thier book?

Good luck, I feel your pain. My mom lives 2 blocks away in one direction and my sister lives 2 blocks in the other!