I have the best of both worlds (marriage and relationships), too; I'm abstaining from all of them. I've never been happier. I can sleep diagonally across the bed, watch old English murder mysteries on PBS, have the TV off completely to read in total silence, eat out or eat in, cook dinner or eat cereal, no compromising, and I don't have to spend the holidays with his family! Life couldn't be better. Can't tell you how many people envy me. I know, I'm odd. But, I'm finally happy.
And, Old Rooster, I no longer have to contemplate the possibility of spending the rest of my life locked up on death row.