EDUCATIONAL INCUBATION & HATCHING CHAT THREAD, w/ Sally Sunshine Shipped Eggs

[Wickedchicken6]

It's mostly because we live above the family business, so he can always see if we're using it. Husband doesn't see what the big deal is, so I'm not getting any support over here.

As for a name, we decided on Michael (continuing with my family's tradition of going with Bible names). He's our first child, so I guess I feel like it's extra important that we're prepared properly, because things could go totally sideways and we have no other children to base the experience on.

I'd say the number one thing is to show/make your husband understand. Show him graphic statistics. And/or the law and fines for not having approved equipment. If your husband and you are not together on things...that will always be a sore that festers.

I'm years behind of the whole car seat situation. Is it a carry type seat that you can have the child strapped in the one your MIL/you bought and move the child to the Grandpa type seat for shopping/everything on the move so people see it...yet it's not specifically having to be used where impact/accident safety is required? I understand that the last thing you want is for an "in law" family member to be slighted. That type of drama can last for a long time. Never-the-less safety should some first and you & your spouse need to stand together as well. Family dynamics aren't always fun with a new child.

Congratulations as well!!!

 

[kwhites634]

We shall.

Is there a time limit? Will we be in our 80s and still have this going?

I doubt that
80's a lot closer for me than for you. I'd probably forget what you gave me the dollar for by that time.

 

[Wickedchicken6]

I doubt that
80's a lot closer for me than for you. I'd probably forget what you gave me the dollar for by that time.

Oh I'm sure there'd be lots of people here to remind us...

 

[kwhites634]

Let it out...let it all out ...you will feel better.
Why don't you accept his insanely unsafe expensive gift...and put it up for sale for half price...see if you can get some other dummy to buy it and pocket the money???
Then use the money for stuff you will actual need.

I can't agree with that at all. If one of my kids had done that to me I'd have been more than hurt.

Better to sit him down and explain her feelings quietly & rationally, bringing up the safety concerns.

 

[hippiestink]

Does husband understand that it doesn't meet the "safety requirements?"

Tell DH you just ordered 50 more chicks...see if he listens then! lol

I'd say the number one thing is to show/make your husband understand. Show him graphic statistics. And/or the law and fines for not having approved equipment. If your husband and you are not together on things...that will always be a sore that festers.

I'm years behind of the whole car seat situation. Is it a carry type seat that you can have the child strapped in the one your MIL/you bought and move the child to the Grandpa type seat for shopping/everything on the move so people see it...yet it's not specifically having to be used where impact/accident safety is required? I understand that the last thing you want is for an "in law" family member to be slighted. That type of drama can last for a long time. Never-the-less safety should some first and you & your spouse need to stand together as well. Family dynamics aren't always fun with a new child.

Congratulations as well!!!

Well he got home a few minutes ago and we talked about it. I showed him everything and we went over it all together and we decided that we'd talk to his mom about it. His mom in the end is the only one who can change her husband's mind about things. Worst case scenario is we use the seats he bought, which are still TECHNICALLY legal but can't be sold past 2018. It's not the absolute safest option, but it's still not fixed in stone because he can still cancel the order.

On the plus side, FIL agrees with me on pretty much everything else and is getting me the crib I want.

 

[hippiestink]

I can't agree with that at all. If one of my kids had done that to me I'd have been more than hurt.

Better to sit him down and explain her feelings quietly & rationally, bringing up the safety concerns.

I agree with that. We're going to discuss it with his mom who can then explain it in a way that my FIL will understand. He's more inclined to listen to his wife.

 

[Kiki]

I can't agree with that at all. If one of my kids had done that to me I'd have been more than hurt.

Better to sit him down and explain her feelings quietly & rationally, bringing up the safety concerns.

If it was something I didn't want..I would flat out refuse it.
Didn't sound like that was/is an option for her so I was trying to think outside the box.
I personally would not do that.

 

[room onthebroom]

Sorry if this sounds harsh, but who gives a rats rear about appeasing your FIL's ego? Nothing comes before the safety of a child, ever. I understand the importance of keeping the peace & that you're living under their roof, but this is your child & therefore your rules. I would tell him how touched you are at his generosity & assure him that there will be a lifetime of being able to spoil his grandchild, but that this particular issue has already been decided, based on the safety of the child.

Safety first, always!

 

[Kiki]

Sorry if this sounds harsh, but who gives a rats rear about appeasing your FIL's ego? Nothing comes before the safety of a child, ever. I understand the importance of keeping the peace & that you're living under their roof, but this is your child & therefore your rules. I would tell him how touched you are at his generosity & assure him that there will be a lifetime of being able to spoil his grandchild, but that this particular issue has already been decided, based on the safety of the child.

Safety first, always!

You basically said what I was thinking!

 

[room onthebroom]

You basically said what I was thinking!

That's because I'm in control of your mind. Now come bring me more coffee .... & breakfast.... & chocolate....