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kajira said:
It had more to do with the fact that she kept taking my toddlers out of strollers/carts in stores and then not holding their hands and making me chase them down. Wouldn't respect my wishes when I told my daughter NO to a 40 dollar stuffed animal - bought it for her after I said no. (I don't play favorites, since no one else was getting a 40 dollar stuffed animal, she shouldn't have had it bought for her, either.)

Wouldn't respect my wishes when I said no - my daughter had to stay with me and her father when her aunt invited her to go see the fishes while she used the bathroom - fishes were by the exit, and my daughter has been yelled at before for putting her hands in the water because she gets excited. She requires supervision, plus it's right by the exit and the place didn't have people I trust alone wiht my kid(s) kind of a deal. I told her no, aunt told my daughter to ignore me and come on - I had to chase after her so she wouldn't be alone by the fish.

Just stuff like that. I told her if she took a toddler out of a cart, she had to hold their hand. She'd take them out, let go of them. Id' stick them back IN the cart, 30 seconds later, she'd take the kid out of again and let go of them. I ended up having to chase down teenagers, toddlers, and other kids repeatedly the entire week because they wouldn't follow my rules.

then, they had the gall to complain about how chaotic it was, and how they needed to drink and how "are you going to handle another one."

DUDE, my kids NEVER act like that in public with me. I take them alone, EVERY TIME I LEAVE... and I NEVER lose a kid -never have a kid disrespect me, never have a kid wander off.

Because, I enforce my rules and follow them. Having other adults deliberately tell my kids to ignore safety rules, is why there was chaos.
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That's terrible! She sounds like a child. That's completely disrespectful of you and the rules of your house. :hugs She's unacceptably inconsiderate.

kajira said:
Sorry for venting. It just still bugs me and I am not over it yet. LOL
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Don't be sorry. I'm so sorry you had to deal with that. :hugs
 
room onthebroom said:
WTW?!?! :he Vent away. There are no words for how pissed I'd be!!! Respect is everything... I would NOT have been nice about any of that. :mad:
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My mother in law is pretty good about letting me dictate the rules around my kids. My sister in law, is a take charge type of person who doesn't give a crap what other people think, or what their wishes/rules are.

she also took pictures of my kids on her phone - which makes me uncomfortable because of her husband. He's a felon who went to jail for spying on young girls, (like, was caught sneaking a camera into the room of a pre-teen girl, who was a family friend and they were over for dinner one night, kind of a deal and had been spying on her for years.)

She chose to stay married to him - I don't know if its because she doesn't have daughters, that she doesn't understand my feelings or other peoples feelings, but she chooses to stay married to a sexual predator who likes young girls.

I have daughters. I am not comfortable trusting her with my daughter as long as she chooses to stay married to a man like that.

My reasons for not wanting my kids alone with my extended family make sense to me - I guess, but they feel i'm a control freak who's being unreasonable.

My mother is a drug addict. She's never met her grandchildren and I haven't willingly talked to her since I was 21, and helped the courts terminate her parental rights to my younger siblings.

This shit is no joke to me. If I can't forgive my own biological mother for her screwed up crap, why would I tolerate someone I barely even like?
 
kajira said:
My history with his family is they are not only NOT used to having multiple little ones around, all at once, they don't think about how much effort it takes to be around little kids when you ARENT used to it.

Example : Last year, my mother in law LEFT my toddler in the car, in the 100 degree texas heat. I have a heart attack, thinking about what COULD have happened, had I not been there. She walked in, sat down, took my teenager and husband with her while I took my daughters to the bathroom. She pulled my husband/teen away from the car before they got my toddler out. We have a system when we get kids out of the car. She interrupted my husband, who wasn't used to having all 4 kids, and didn't think about it until I came back and freaked out on them for leaving him in the car.

I cannot imagine what would have happened, had I not been there. So I don't trust people who aren't used to big families, around my kids after that. I've seen shit happen with people who aren't used to toddlers/ or a large group of kids.

I'm not just being a control freak for no reason - when I relax my guard around them, bad things happen to my kids.
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I don't see that you are a control freak at all. Your their mother and keeping your kids safe is one of your responsibilities.

I've only had one child...but until he was older he was limited to staying with us for the most part. One mistake can cause a lifetime of heartache. It's not worth it to appease family/friends.
 
Wickedchicken6 said:
I don't see that you are a control freak at all. Your their mother and keeping your kids safe is one of your responsibilities.

I've only had one child...but until he was older he was limited to staying with us for the most part. One mistake can cause a lifetime of heartache. It's not worth it to appease family/friends.
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most parents don't think my requests (especially with multiple kids) are unreasonable... I don't like my kids wandering off with me, and even though she's his sister, I really don't *know* her at all.... she's pretty much a complete stranger to me, and every interaction with her, has been pretty much negative towards me since she met me... so what has she done to prove to me that she's trustworthy.
 
What Wicked said x100! :goodpost:
I'm considered an extremist because when my kids were little I refused to leave them alone with a babysitter. I took YEARS worth of crap for this, but I didn't care. I had one incident where DH & I HAD to be at the same place at the same time & there was no way to get out of it. My brother actually drove out to san diego from phoenix to watch them for me, because there was not another soul on earth I'd trust them with. I was also demonized for making them sit still in restaurants & teaching them manners. Apparently its cruel to not let your kids run around the restaurant, & by teaching them to say please & thank you, we were trying to prove that we're better than everybody else. :th People are so freaking stupid & I just don't listen to them. I'm proud of you for sticking up for what you believe in & protecting them! YOU GO GIRL!!! :yesss:
 
kajira said:
most parents don't think my requests (especially with multiple kids) are unreasonable... I don't like my kids wandering off with me, and even though she's his sister, I really don't *know* her at all.... she's pretty much a complete stranger to me, and every interaction with her, has been pretty much negative towards me since she met me... so what has she done to prove to me that she's trustworthy.
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NOTHING exactly the opposite. Maybe if DH wants to still visit with her, he might consider going to visit her in the future or meeting somewhere other than your place.
 

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