EDUCATIONAL INCUBATION & HATCHING CHAT THREAD, w/ Sally Sunshine Shipped Eggs

[room onthebroom]

1. .. I need a ride into town!

You're lucky I wont need a babysitter

 

[Lazy Farmer]

 

[Wickedchicken6]

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That's hilarious!!
Hey! Are you trying to say I'm some kind of flake??

 

[Wickedchicken6]

WTW?!?! Vent away. There are no words for how pissed I'd be!!! Respect is everything... I would NOT have been nice about any of that.

I was still quite shy when we had our son. I wish I had been more like I am now. I'd put put my foot down a lot firmer.

Theres no such thing as being a "control freak" when it comes to a childs safety!

X2!

My mother in law is pretty good about letting me dictate the rules around my kids. My sister in law, is a take charge type of person who doesn't give a crap what other people think, or what their wishes/rules are.

she also took pictures of my kids on her phone - which makes me uncomfortable because of her husband. He's a felon who went to jail for spying on young girls, (like, was caught sneaking a camera into the room of a pre-teen girl, who was a family friend and they were over for dinner one night, kind of a deal and had been spying on her for years.)

She chose to stay married to him - I don't know if its because she doesn't have daughters, that she doesn't understand my feelings or other peoples feelings, but she chooses to stay married to a sexual predator who likes young girls.

I have daughters. I am not comfortable trusting her with my daughter as long as she chooses to stay married to a man like that.

My reasons for not wanting my kids alone with my extended family make sense to me - I guess, but they feel i'm a control freak who's being unreasonable.

My mother is a drug addict. She's never met her grandchildren and I haven't willingly talked to her since I was 21, and helped the courts terminate her parental rights to my younger siblings.

This shit is no joke to me. If I can't forgive my own biological mother for her screwed up crap, why would I tolerate someone I barely even like?

You are SO right & I wouldn't let her near my kids. Guilty by association or enabling a predator, whatever. I seriously wouldn't even want her POS husband to even know where I lived, see pix, or know name of my kids, nothing.... Just, no!

most parents don't think my requests (especially with multiple kids) are unreasonable... I don't like my kids wandering off with me, and even though she's his sister, I really don't *know* her at all.... she's pretty much a complete stranger to me, and every interaction with her, has been pretty much negative towards me since she met me... so what has she done to prove to me that she's trustworthy.

Yep! Couldn't agree more on everything above.

What Wicked said x100!
I'm considered an extremist because when my kids were little I refused to leave them alone with a babysitter. I took YEARS worth of crap for this, but I didn't care. I had one incident where DH & I HAD to be at the same place at the same time & there was no way to get out of it. My brother actually drove out to san diego from phoenix to watch them for me, because there was not another soul on earth I'd trust them with. I was also demonized for making them sit still in restaurants & teaching them manners. Apparently its cruel to not let your kids run around the restaurant, & by teaching them to say please & thank you, we were trying to prove that we're better than everybody else. People are so freaking stupid & I just don't listen to them. I'm proud of you for sticking up for what you believe in & protecting them! YOU GO GIRL!!!

I was the exact same here. And most definitely zero tolerance for anyone connected to behavior like that with children. Most abhorrent.

NOTHING exactly the opposite. Maybe if DH wants to still visit with her, he might consider going to visit her in the future or meeting somewhere other than your place.

I make my kids sit still when we go out and don't usually let them play on electronics, either most of the time at tables. They are messy and I tip well for them to clean the mess up.

my sister in law seemed completely traumatized by how messy two toddlers are, half their food ended up on the table or floor... but my 1 year old is learning how to eat with a spoon, so most of it missed her mouth. I'm used to it - I tip well for the waiters to clean up the mess. I've never had one complain and it really takes the same amount of time to sweep under the table or wipe the floor down for any other customer since they have tools that make it fast. lol

The reason my kids learn how to be in public is because I give them a chance to learn, but do it while managing their behavior. I'd rather they make a mess with their food, then scream and make it miserable for everyone else in the place because I control the spoon when they rather feed themselves, you know what I mean? lol

Exactly! I had to teach mine to behave because sometimes we have to eat out & I will not tolerate a kid running & screaming in a public place like that. I'm not an ogre, they have all day to scream, run, throw mud, whatever at home. Behaving for an hour every now & then is reasonable. I always over tipped too when they were in the 'food all over the floor' phase.
PS. I'd tell MIL that if she ever pulls that crap again, she wont be coming back again either. (ok, so maybe I AM an ogre, but who cares!)

I don't even know if I'd be as gracious with the MIL. She'd probably be banned too.

Yeah - I get it. lol most people with toddlers get it - and we have good days where they eat super well and don't make much of a mess, and days where they dislike what was offered and most of it ends up finger painted on themselves, or the table. I ask for extra napkins and do my best to wipe things up - but I have to eat, too, and I have to pick my battles. It was definitely easier with just "one" kid to manage. You learn to let a lot of the little stuff go, and what you need to be more strict on - like not allowing kids to run crazy. I *hate* that, I sometimes allow my youngest to be out of the high chair - but she doesn't run away. She either hides under the table, or clings to my leg most of the time. I found that by using booths, they tend to do better, then being strapped into high chairs. They want to be 'big kids' kind of, and high chairs make them feel trapped. I try to listen to their individual needs, and as long as they work with me, I work with them. haha

I hate screaming children in public, it bugs the crap out of me, so i'm really quick to try to shut mine up in places where it's not really acceptable... but in stores, when a kid is excited and let's out a high pitched noise, I just keep going. I have to get my shit done and a store isn't the same as a sit-down place where people would expect peace to eat.
A store is noisy, loud, often crowded, so a kid being a kid shouldn't be an issue, and if it is - go shopping when there's less likely to be families there. LOL

Time and place.

I guess since I have more than 2.5 kids and the white picket fence, my view on families is a little different. I think kids need to be taught respect for others, but there's a time and place for good behavior and wild kid behavior and something somewhat in-between.

My sister in law was completely offended, by me having a chicken on my lap while sitting in my house, too. I showed a picture of it to her, because chickens are REALLY important to my daughter, and she was entirely squicked out by the idea of a pet chicken. haha.

If it were me...I'd likely make sure I have at least one, maybe ever two kennels worth of chicks/chickens in my kitchen just to freak your SIL out for good...lol.

 

[Wickedchicken6]

My gas station has actual tv screens tuned into "pump tv"

No screens here either.

 

[Wickedchicken6]

Good day.
the problem is that almost every one AROUND you on the road is with that hellish device! It is impossible for them to postpone their desire to know how many likes they have got for their stupid post! Or some other stupid thing.

Yep!

 

[Wickedchicken6]

That's incredibly vile. Am I surprised? Not really. It IS more awful than I originally thought.

I sleep in clothes, always on top of both sheets, I won't touch the comforter because they aren't washed...I peel it off the bed. I won't touch the pillows or cases...I bring my own cases to lay over the pillow so I don't have to touch it. (How many kids/people chuck the pillows on the floors and they just get picked up and put back on the beds.

Then everything gets washed on super boiling and dried on hot when I get home.
Too much work! I'd rather not go anywhere.

 

[Kiki]

That's incredibly vile. Am I surprised? Not really. It IS more awful than I originally thought.

I sleep in clothes, always on top of both sheets, I won't touch the comforter because they aren't washed...I peel it off the bed. I won't touch the pillows or cases...I bring my own cases to lay over the pillow so I don't have to touch it. (How many kids/people chuck the pillows on the floors and they just get picked up and put back on the beds.

Then everything gets washed on super boiling and dried on hot when I get home.
Too much work! I'd rather not go anywhere.

You sleep in your clothes?

 

[Lazy Farmer]

You sleep in your clothes?

While hugging a stuffed Rooster teddy bear.

 

[Kiki]

While hugging a stuffed Rooster teddy bear.

I bet she has a homemade pillow...full of rooster feathers.