Engagement party... thoughts?

[SourRoses]

Kinky!

 

[froggie71]

See this is why I love BYC. You guys say just what you think

I agree that giving the Emily Post book would be a bit rude though funny. I appreciate that everyone does agree that presents unless something simple like a card or bottle of wine is out. Maybe I could slip into the pile of cards she may be collecting a picture of the Etiquette book though

 

[mom'sfolly]

I think this is a gift fishing expedition. With the wedding two or three years down the line, you are obligated for nothing. An engagement party is supposed to be a celebration for the couple. If it is just for the bride to be, it is a little strange.

I think a recipe box, and a bunch of family recipes would get the obligatory gift out of the way, cost you little but time, and be a gift so appropriate that the bride to be couldn't whine about it. A family photo album would work too.

 

[kuntrygirl]

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I like this idea.

 

[debilorrah]

The only people I have ever heard of having an engagement party are famous people.

 

[country lady]

Just curious, will her "engagement" appear in the local newspaper and did she receive an engagement ring? Would I go? If I liked the future bride/groom (think of it just as a party). A gift? Maybe an inexpensive frame from Walmart with a photo of the couple.

 

[froggie71]

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Not sure if it was in the paper, but she did get a ring. It was her profile pic of FB for a bit after she 1st got it.


I'll probably end up going and as suggested a nice card with possibly a bottle of wine or as my sister said " a bottle of Bailey's" with a couple of glasses to celebrate.

Thanks all for your input!

 

[sourland]

I agree with your husband about the Emily Post book, but I too am a guy, and yep upon occassion I have been called rude. I just seem to lack poitical correctness.

 

[Beekissed]

I'd go to the party, eat the food, congratulate the bride to be and roll on....act as if you don't know this is a gift fishing event. Emily Post is big on not pointing out other's social gaffes.

If anyone makes a point of mentioning that you didn't bring a gift, just politely whisper that you didn't want to embarass the bride to be by offering her a gift at her engagement party as if it were a bridal shower or the actual wedding.

 

[Sonoran Silkies]

If you can find a book on planning weddings, not just etiquette, that would probably serve the same purpose as it will likely talk about etiquette, but that will not be the whole focus.

In my opinion, ring or not, if the wedding is not for several years, there really is no engagement. What is the point of getting engaged now and married years later? Why not get married in a reasonable amount of time (a few months to at most a year)? or delaying the engagement until they have selected a date that is within a reasonable amount of time.

I like the idea of a recipe box with a collection of favourite recipes, especially if you have any family favourites. I suppose you can consider that you are building the bride's trouseau and helping to fill her hope chest.