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[elizabethbinary]

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I wouldn't, I find it offensive when anybody does. But some people do. Some Jews have shiva for when their child stops being Jewish. I find that a bit horrid.

 

[KellyHM]

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I wouldn't, I find it offensive when anybody does. But some people do. Some Jews have shiva for when their child stops being Jewish. I find that a bit horrid.

I don't really know anything about shiva except what you've told us, but I even find that odd!

 

[texasgal]

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That's good .. how does he sound? Is he a rock .. or a worry wart? I know how MY dad would sound.. LOL

Umm, usually he's a major worry wart, but he sounds fairly calm so far. I think if she has to have surgery then I'll have to be the supportive one.

ETA: He WAS ticked off that they admitted her, left him in the ER waiting room, and couldn't find any record of her for about an hour.

Ugh, my pet peave. I am the person in our cath lab that makes sure that doesn't happen once they get here. I keep the families updated and make sure they get to their proper destination with the patient once the procedure is over. It is sooooooo easy for these departments to get "Patient focused" and forget they have families that need tending to ...

for your dad.

 

[charmed one]

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Shiva is when a house is in mourning. You cover the mirrors and the woman covers her head. All pleasurable activities are meant to be refrained from - and the persons are meant to sit low and be waited on by visitors. The mourners are not even allowed to get up to answer the door, the guests must let themselves in, no words, and bring you things to make the grief easier. The woman lights a candle for every death and does a lot of prayers for the deceased.

It's supposed to be a time of rememberance, reflection, coming to terms and spiritual togetherness. You make special meals to honour the dead.

It was intended for me to 'get over' what's been going on lately. To have a spiritual release. To cry.

Is it Lent already? Wow!

Edit: Meh, wiki is a decent source for shiva: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Shiva_(Judaism)

Thanks for the link. I have never been around anyone of the Jewish faith before and am not familiar with their customs. I hope you have people around you that can support you while you go through this.

 

[elizabethbinary]

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I wouldn't, I find it offensive when anybody does. But some people do. Some Jews have shiva for when their child stops being Jewish. I find that a bit horrid.

I don't really know anything about shiva except what you've told us, but I even find that odd!

It's not odd, it's insulting! It's like saying your child is dead because there is one less Jew in the world. Very holier-than-thou. But what do you expect? Hardcore religion stupidity is in all religions.

 

[elizabethbinary]

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Shiva is when a house is in mourning. You cover the mirrors and the woman covers her head. All pleasurable activities are meant to be refrained from - and the persons are meant to sit low and be waited on by visitors. The mourners are not even allowed to get up to answer the door, the guests must let themselves in, no words, and bring you things to make the grief easier. The woman lights a candle for every death and does a lot of prayers for the deceased.

It's supposed to be a time of rememberance, reflection, coming to terms and spiritual togetherness. You make special meals to honour the dead.

It was intended for me to 'get over' what's been going on lately. To have a spiritual release. To cry.

Is it Lent already? Wow!

Edit: Meh, wiki is a decent source for shiva: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Shiva_(Judaism)

Thanks for the link. I have never been around anyone of the Jewish faith before and am not familiar with their customs. I hope you have people around you that can support you while you go through this.

I have my husband but the others are being a bit difficult. I really don't think bar my husband anybody 'gets' what I'm doing. One of them asked me if I was better yet... it's been ONE day. I'm mourning FORTY SIX.

There's very few Jews, even here... so nobody visits me or anything.

Even worse, I tried to call of my house inspection and they refused. I'm like.. okay sure... your problem if you want to come into a house with a covered crying woman in torn clothing with sheets on the mirrors... I kinda just wish it was a bigger event so they'd feel like bigger a***holes.

Bleeeh. Sorry, I'm feeling sorry for myself.

 

[quietheart]

That's what I though too Elizabeth, just didn't want to say anything offensive. I just recently found out that my husband has Lithuanian Jew heritage, it's really neat doing genealogy research. I'm working on getting as much information for my Step-daughter as a wedding present for her, she's getting married on the 26th.

 

[texasgal]

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Thanks for the link. I have never been around anyone of the Jewish faith before and am not familiar with their customs. I hope you have people around you that can support you while you go through this.

I have my husband but the others are being a bit difficult. I really don't think bar my husband anybody 'gets' what I'm doing. One of them asked me if I was better yet... it's been ONE day. I'm mourning FORTY SIX.

There's very few Jews, even here... so nobody visits me or anything.

Even worse, I tried to call of my house inspection and they refused. I'm like.. okay sure... your problem if you want to come into a house with a covered crying woman in torn clothing with sheets on the mirrors... I kinda just wish it was a bigger event so they'd feel like bigger a***holes.

Bleeeh. Sorry, I'm feeling sorry for myself.

Ah, honey, they don't need to GET what you're doing ... you're not doing it for them!

Just carry on and ignore the rest ..

 

[charmed one]

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Thanks for the link. I have never been around anyone of the Jewish faith before and am not familiar with their customs. I hope you have people around you that can support you while you go through this.

I have my husband but the others are being a bit difficult. I really don't think bar my husband anybody 'gets' what I'm doing. One of them asked me if I was better yet... it's been ONE day. I'm mourning FORTY SIX.

There's very few Jews, even here... so nobody visits me or anything.

Even worse, I tried to call of my house inspection and they refused. I'm like.. okay sure... your problem if you want to come into a house with a covered crying woman in torn clothing with sheets on the mirrors... I kinda just wish it was a bigger event so they'd feel like bigger a***holes.

Bleeeh. Sorry, I'm feeling sorry for myself.

Don't be sorry. It is all apart of the healing process. You can cry on our shoulders here anytime.

 

[texasgal]

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I have my husband but the others are being a bit difficult. I really don't think bar my husband anybody 'gets' what I'm doing. One of them asked me if I was better yet... it's been ONE day. I'm mourning FORTY SIX.

There's very few Jews, even here... so nobody visits me or anything.

Even worse, I tried to call of my house inspection and they refused. I'm like.. okay sure... your problem if you want to come into a house with a covered crying woman in torn clothing with sheets on the mirrors... I kinda just wish it was a bigger event so they'd feel like bigger a***holes.

Bleeeh. Sorry, I'm feeling sorry for myself.

Don't be sorry. It is all apart of the healing process. You can cry on our shoulders here anytime.

Yeah .. that.