I get that they are 40+. I'm just weighing waiting 40+ years plus a few more months verses getting into a marriage that they may want out of at a later date which would also be against what they belive. They sound like they are being imature - doesn't matter the age - in a few things - like not waiting, informing you that the wedding is at your home instead of asking you.
Just my 2 cents
Just my 2 cents