First things first: I don't want your pity. I'm not coming here for a pity party and I don't want people coddling me or feeling sorry for me. It's life, ... things happen. I don't usually put anything this personal out for fear of being treated like a child, but I'm sure there are some of you out there who have dealt with the things I'm probably going to deal with. Okay, now that that's out of the way - long story short, I'm a really sickly person. Ulcerative Colitis, possible Crohns, IBS, Peptic Ulcer, Fibromyalgia, and possibly Celiacs (we will have to see if the gluten free diet works.) I recently went into a pre-flare state; pain so bad I couldn't move without tearing up or worse. It's the first time in 7 years I've asked for pain meds, the first time in 6 I've been on steroids. It got me wondering about the things I don't know and the skills I lack that I'll need when I go out into the real world. I'm wanting advice from those adults who have experience dealing with their own diseases. It won't be long and I'll be on my college adventure after my break and maybe even one day I'll find a job There is literally nobody around me, or nobody that I know of, who has had to deal with anything similar. I can't go to my own family or friends for help, so I thought I'd ask for help from those of you who have 'been there done that'. Sophomore year and forward were the worst years of my life until I graduated. I'm a straight A student; never had any problems learning, studying, etc. I always understand the material, but it does become a problem when you are so ill you miss several, several days and subsequently, the teaching of the material. I know college is a whole different ball park, but how did those of you who've also been sick during those times handle it? I get the idea that it will be a repeat of my high school years and if it is, college will literally be impossible for me unless I'm largely symptom free (haven't been for almost 7 years now, since the onset of all the diseases). I missed a lot of class, and no matter how hard I tried to work with my teachers, 90% of them literally did not care about me or my education and wouldn't help me at all. I lost my lifelong dream of being being valedictorian, among other things, because I simply could not get the majority of my teachers to work with me or help me at all. I would miss class and they would expect me to magically know the material or gather it from my classmates (None of which knew anything or cared about school in general). How did you approach your professors? What steps did you take to make it easier on yourself? And about jobs. I don't have one yet, other than what I do myself. How did you go about explaining your health to your employer, without scaring them into thinking you were some sort of hypochondriac or that you'd constantly be slacking/taking off for no good reason? I am a hard working girl, especially if I know it's my responsibility. However, I know there will be days were I will be sick and I simply won't be able to function normally, as well, or even at all. I don't know how to get it across that I'm not going to just slack off all the time or take advantage of them. A premature thank you to anyone who replies in all seriousness.