Family Picture Obligation

[Ema]

I have a 15 yr old who likes to have his hair long too. his step mom forced him to cut his hair and in the end got a picture of the family with him looking rather ticked off. and I never hear the end of it. Frankly whether they are children, or young adults that is how they like to look and I would never make my children change who they are or believe in unless it posed a health issue.

my kids go to catholic school and there are several boys with mohawks, girls in pink or purple hair and one kid has both ears pieced and a green mohawk. Even the priest told them it looks super cool. they are good kids and a different hair cut wouldn't change who they are!!

My grandmother loved the short slick to the side look and never approved of my sons hair, but I told her to focus on who he was not the way he dressed or how long his hair was because times have changed and kids are not the same as they were when we were growing up or when they were growing up. She should just be happy that have her grandchildren there too. this is my honest opinion.

 

[ebwy2]

no way would I make the kids have their hair cut for the photo unless they wanted it cut anyway.
If grandma doesn't like it, too bad. Would she change her hairstyle because they think hers should look different?

 

[chickensducks&agoose]

Tell her you're getting their ears pierced, depending on how old they are, include a nose piercing, or a brow ring... then, after she's totally freaked out, say, Okay, you've convinced me not to pierce them, but the hair stays.

 

[redhen]

My personal opinions aside..

I would not get the kids hair cut short for mom... just get it trimmed up nice and neat looking.

 

[Camelot Farms]

Tell Gram that you came to a compromise. They will keep thier tattoos covered and remove their facial piercings but the hair stays...

Bah haa haaaa....

 

[Buugette]

I would not force my kids to cut their hair as long as it is properly cared for. I had the issue with my in-laws... I like my son's hair longer than "normal" and when he was little... THEY CUT HIS HAIR... needless to say... I WAS FURIOUS!!!

They have NEVER touched a hair on either of my children's heads again. I resent someone telling me how to raise my kids... or try to tell me how they should look. My kids are straight A students, clean cut, well dressed in jeans and t-shirts, and very kind and polite. They do not drink, smoke or do drugs. No one can ask for more. Leave their hair alone.

Have your kids' hair trimmed, clean and brushed... and granny will get over it.

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[wildeflowers]

I'm going to chime in as a photographer.

I hope that you do not have them cut it. Trim it up and make it look nice, yes. Cut it to please grandma, no.

1. All you or they are going to remember every. single. time. you look at this picture is how grandma made them cut their hair. This is going to be a family document, is that what you (and even grandma) want to think about when looking at it? I'm an upfront person, so I'd actually say this to grandma.

2. If you force the kids to cut their hair, they are not going to feel like "themselves," and they are probably going to be resentful. They are not going to cooperate as well with the pic, even if it is not intentional. You'll get a better picture if you leave their hair alone.

Sot that's my 2 cents. Take it for what it's worth.

 

[poconoadoptionfamily]

I agree with Cindiloohoo. This is a boundary issue. Give Grandma an opening and she will feel she has an open invitation to give you more unsolicited advice in the future. Kindly tell your Mom that they are YOUR sons and they can wear their hair longer if they choose to. However, I would make sure their hair is neatly trimmed and if they choose to the boys could wear a low pony tail.