I say let the chips fall where they may--I want the unvarnished truth. I have a relative who likes to pretty things up but I call him on it if I know the truth. Most of us have stinkers in the family even today. Just this afternoon I found an obit of my great-grandmother who died in 1904 at age 39. The obit didn't give cause of death but shed some light on the family. I have been searching for this for years. I found it in the 1904 newspaper online. My relatives lived all around this info forever and never bothered to look for it. Amazing how some people have no curiosity.