Fattie's big fat RANT

[JulieNKC]

What an (not saying in case kiddos read this)!!! I would have made a big old scene, or been out the door. Don't take that from anyone!

 

[dewey]

I'm so sorry you were subjected to that.

 

[kuntrygirl]

Wow. I think at the moment I was called a fat*** I would have walked out and let them find their own way home. That is just mentally damaging and coming from a husband that says he loves you makes it even worse! I am so sorry that this happened to you and I would not wish it upon anyone. Sounds like hubby needs sometime out in the dog house....

X2.  That kind of rudeness and insensitivity is NEVER called for. Especially not in public. If he wants to gently bring the subject up to you, fine.  But for God's sake man, do it in a private and loving manner! What he did was extremely ABUSIVE and damaging.   I'd have up and walked out.

X3

 

[EweSheep]

I was a skinny thing too when I met hubby. All of 133 lbs of me. Now I'm a hundred pounds heavier. Thanks to pregnancy, pain pills and steroids.

Hubby would NEVER EVER call me fat. He just says "more for my hands and for ME to play with!"

A week ago, my daughter told me I am too fat to eat a big bowl of leafy greens. In a HOT second, hubby admonsidered dd that was very very rude and very hurtful to tell Mommy that! That was the end of the "fat" conversation. I swear he was literally breathing down on my dd's neck with his piercing stares for a few minutes. It was uncomfortable for me but more so with dd. We both didn't degrade anyone who is fat or dumb or handicap. If you ahve those thoughts, keep it to yourself! We all know that as decent human beings who you dont know..they may have a medical problem or eating or emotional disorder or at the mercy of food companies that screams "Low fat....eat more!"

 

[Glenmar]

Sorry. I worked with a girl once whose husband was such a jerk that he gave her a scale for her birthday.

He was obsessed with skinny women, which she was never going to be. She was tall and big boned.

Maybe you should tell him you will go on a diet when he does.

 

[sourland]

Fattie,

, there is nothing right about that entire scenario. I know what my wife would do if I had ever been that stupid.

 

[Avalon1984]

I was a skinny thing too when I met hubby. All of 133 lbs of me. Now I'm a hundred pounds heavier. Thanks to pregnancy, pain pills and steroids.

Hubby would NEVER EVER call me fat. He just says "more for my hands and for ME to play with!"

A week ago, my daughter told me I am too fat to eat a big bowl of leafy greens. In a HOT second, hubby admonsidered dd that was very very rude and very hurtful to tell Mommy that! That was the end of the "fat" conversation. I swear he was literally breathing down on my dd's neck with his piercing stares for a few minutes. It was uncomfortable for me but more so with dd. We both didn't degrade anyone who is fat or dumb or handicap. If you ahve those thoughts, keep it to yourself! We all know that as decent human beings who you dont know..they may have a medical problem or eating or emotional disorder or at the mercy of food companies that screams "Low fat....eat more!"

Same here. I gained about 35lbs due to steroids and pain meds. My husband never brings it up and he knows that I will lose weight again as my work schedule changes back to normal (instead of 14hrs days and eating at 9pm) as well as getting off teh meds. That is what love is all about, it is unconditional.

 

[yomama]

Wow! I almost don't know what to say. I think the first think I would of done to husband and daughter was

. Then, I would of grabbed the keys and took off, leaving both of them there. That was just cruel! My husband knows better than to let any word that even resembles the word "fat" roll of his lips, whether he is talking about me, or any woman for that matter. I'm assuming you don't talk to your husband the same way? If not, this is totally unacceptable. I'm not going to tell you what to do, just know that there is no reason to have to put up with verbal abuse like that. Husbands should be accepting of their wives bodies, considering all the changes our stupid bodies go through over the years. I was 50lbs lighter, when my husband and I got together, 15 years ago. Now, 2 kids, increasing physical limitations, and 2 major surgeries later, I'm almost as heavy as I was when I was full term pregnant! I get really down about it, and when I complain, he just says, "well, I don't see it!" I know he does, but he never lets on that it bothers him. I think he also knows that I have the goal to get back in better shape, just need to wait till my body is able to do what I need it to. I'm so sorry that you have to endure that kind of talk. If you feel this marriage is something you still want to be in, definitely go to counseling. For anyone to call anyone a fat***, is just mean. Let alone someone who is supposed to love and cherish you. Verbal abuse can be very damaging, and if you hear it long enough, you might start to believe it. Don't ever put up with being belittled or insulted. You're worth way more than that- and don't ever let anyone tell you different!!!!!!!!

 

[redhen]

Steph, ...when he said that, didnt you knock his teeth out?
Sweetie, WHY would you tolerate that nastiness?? YOU deserve better.. i just wish you could see that..
You ARE a pretty lady and NOT fat! I AM fat... lol, you are NOT...
AND even if you were fat, SO WHAT?? Isnt he supposed to love you anyways? You know the answer to that..
I would NEVER feel comfortable being intimate with my husband EVER again if he said such cruel things to me... never..
I dont know what to tell you, its your decision in the end... but i know the ONE time (many years ago) my husband called me the B word... (and to be fair, i WAS really being a witch... for no reason, just one of my many evil days...

),
Anyways, i had a coffee cup in my hand, and then he was at the ER for a split head and stitches...(had to lie to the ER folks, and say he fell so i didnt go to jail..lol. NOt sure they believed the story either, i got the hairy eyeball from the doc a few times that night.. )

That was the last bit of nasty mouth my husband EVER said to me... EVEN if i DID deserve it..

#1 because its not in his personality to be disrespectful to women..
#2 He saw real quick that i was not the one to try it out on...

I dont know.. i cant STAND when i see women being abused... (yes, he was being abusive to you Steph)...Why do you stay?
Dont say its love, because thats NOT love... its something else..
*sigh* Now ya gots me worried about ya... Pm me if you need anything..

And PLEASE dont allow him to do that to you again... Hes beating down your self-esteem AND self-respect... dont ever let anyone do that to you...
You DO deserve better..

 

[redhen]

Sorry. I worked with a girl once whose husband was such a jerk that he gave her a scale for her birthday.

He was obsessed with skinny women, which she was never going to be. She was tall and big boned.

Maybe you should tell him you will go on a diet when he does.

Or when he grows a few inches ..