What I was saying is that it is rude to go on about how awful your life is when someone asks you this. You can tell me all the positive things - but when I ask you how you are, I don't want to hear about health problems and gossip. That is what I was talking about.
It's very nice that he cared.
Oh I understood, sorry, this was no disrespect to you, just a comment to Lacy Blue that it is rare to meet people who don't know you very well, who actually want to know the true answers to their questions. I have actually been trying to remind myself to say, "How nice to see you!" instead of, "How are you?" - which is totally true, I'm happy to see people I know, and got caught in some extended conversations I simply didn't have time for when asking how people were.
I guess I'm some weird hybrid sort of person - I genuinely like people, I just don't want to spend all my time with them. When I leave work I don't want to go socialize, I want to come home, see the biddies and the kitties and DH, and get my chores done.