We just recently got approved for food stamps. We applied on July first as we were desperate. I cried the whole 30 miles home, I was so ashamed and felt that we failed somehow.
My husband was laid off at the beginning of May and his final paycheck was unable to be cashed as his employer had insufficient funds in their acct. We just now (at the end of July) got that issue resolved. We've been living on our savings. Our savings are just about dry now. He just applied for unemployment so I don't think we'll get food stamps next month.
Heres a little bit about us...
My husband and I are married and have 3 DD's. My husband made decent money. We never lived outside our means. We only have one car, that was used and we paid cash for. We've never had cable or satellite. The only "Extra" we have ever had is Internet because I sometimes do odd virtual assisting jobs for real estate agents and need Internet to do that. But since the housing market has went to crap no one needs my help anymore, so we use the Internet to search for jobs and I escape to BYC.
We never eat anywhere but our dining room table, unless we go to a relatives for a holiday dinner, lol Never eat take out or fast food.
We've never had credit cards because we feel if we cant pay cash for it, we really don't need it. I do have a pre paid Visa card because we can order meds and supplies for our animals cheaper online. Our dogs, cats, and rats all get left overs. I always cook from scratch, so the leftovers are ok for them. The snake gets wild mice now and the goats get scraps and pasture. I do have hatching eggs coming soon for DD birthday present, but the chickens are stocked up on feed for at least 2 more months. I will only allow our animals to go else where if they are about to starve. Every animal we have, pet or livestock is guaranteed proper care and a lifelong home with us, we just all have to adapt and overcome.
Since the day my husband was laid off he's been out looking for job every day except Sunday. He finally got to the point where he is looking outside his field of operating heavy equipment. He was told by McDonald's that he is overqualified and they will not hire him because of that. He also applied at King Soopers and was turned down because of having no experience. He did apartment maintenance for the first few years we were together and tried applying for a job in that field but was told because his prior experience was so long ago they wouldn't consider him. Nothing is avalible in his current field, so he is still looking.
I have been looking for a job on nights and weekends and since I have been a SAHM for the past 6 years my skills are out the window. My background is in office work and customer service. Either I'm overly qualified to work at KFC or not experienced enough for call center work for Comcast.
I put the word out that I can do babysitting, on our church bulletin and I have sitting job on Saturday, So thats something.
We have to feed our kids and keep a roof over their heads, and if we want to keep our kids we have to have electricity. So food stamps and unemployment are our current resourses to do that. The phone and internet are the next to go.
We don't want a free ride. WE are the ones welfare was originally desingned to help. The working class average Joe.
I don't feel so ashamed about it anymore. I worked since I was 14. DH has worked for over 17 years, I'm 29 and DH is 31. The way I see it, we've been paying into this system for years now and we are just taking what we've already paid for. I asked the social worker if I could use coupons, he laughed at me. It's our money so I don't see it as "free" money. It's no different than a tax return. I also drop off several bags of food after going grocery shopping to our local food bank. Sharing is caring and we are not the only ones who need help.
I really HATE having to rely on the government for food, but it's NOT FREE! We've already paid for it.
Bottom line, if you NEED help, please don't be to proud to get it.
And if anyone feels that people who take that help are losers then I really, truly hope they never know the humility of having to ask for help.