Foster/Adoptive Parent Rant!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[Boyd]

PS, next time I am only going to allow her to be 10 minutes late. After that they (the agency) can make arrangements to drop off L because I won't be waiting around anymore

 

[PineappleMama]

She was going to take off without the child's meds?!?!

That bit would definitely be getting reported to N... punctuality is one thing... it's rude... but it is NOTHING compared to a parent willing to blow off their child's health because it's inconvenient.

 

[WingingIt]

Oh, man. I'm not seeing this going well next time, either, to be honest. I'm thinking you're going to have to bow out at some point due to the lady and her 'me-me'me' attitude. I really do hope the agency is taking notice of her actions. If there a want-to-be-adoptive-Dad in the picture? Just wondering why (if so) he's not making any effort to make this whole situation better and maybe take over some of the interactions since she's obviously so bad at it.

 

[duck walk]

this woman sounds like a wing nut and like someone who really does not need the responsibility of a child...Holy crap batman! What is she thinking or is she thinking at all?

 

[PineappleMama]

My thoughts exactly. Why in the world are these people trying for a Special Needs case anyways? Sounds to me like they'd have trouble with a 'regular' child... n'mind one that needs counseling, meds, extra attention. I wonder what the motive is there. One of them go though similar, so they want to Pay It Forward so to speak by adopting one in need... or is it just that the waiting list is too long for a 'regular' child and this is the fastest way to get one... I'm really hoping it's the first option... but given how insane the adoption system can be I wouldn't be surprised to hear it's the second.

Do they ask that sort of question on the forms in that office?

 

[BC_Farms]

I took public transportation for years and I get why it's used. Saves money, option if you don't have a car or a license, good thing to use in a city (NYC, DC, SF etc etc etc).....but I really feel as though something isn't right with these people and they really need to start using their car or someone else's. And umm...call if they are going to be late?

It just really worries me and rubs me the wrong way. If I were adopting a child I would be so excited I would be waiting for you an hour before the meeting time and have a ridiculous checklist of things that L would have to bring between houses. Forgetting a child's medication and not talking to you is unacceptable. I don't care if you have personal differences...what would it have been...less than 5 minutes of courtesy chatting and making sure she had everything?

My heart just feels for L. I hope that through all of this she somehow hasn't gotten the idea that she isn't special or worth her "new family" showing up on time.

Public transportation is a PITA and unreliable at times. That's why when I took the hour long bus ride to get to school I went an hour earlier....because I couldn't afford to miss class if I missed the connecting bus or if they were running 10 minutes late!

 

[EweSheep]

At times, even with the heat and blizzards, our city transportation do break down and delayed for an hour or so. They are the pits! It is very useful in taking a trip downtown when there is a city wide special event going on, like a festival, and save us the hassle of parking. And we are a straight shot downtown in two to three miles south of us and have three different routes to take on certain streets. In all case, it is pain in the butt particuarly in the heat or blizzards when there is no shelter.

Public transportation is not good around here, grade F for being on time, punctuality, driver's behavior and their safety issues.

In this case, Boyd, if she did not give you any excuses that the busses ran late or breakdowns, you sure can call the bus service to see which bus is going on time and so forth.

This would be the second time the woman strung you up, third time is a deal breaker and called off.

 

[Boyd]

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this is the 4th time actually... and reason she was late? She got on the wrong interchange

and had to double back.

 

[PineappleMama]

The fourth time around and she's still getting on the wrong one?
Or were these four different meeting places so four different 'routes' to learn?

Still think she shoulda planned ahead, I'm just curious as to if this is a one time oops wrong bus or if she consistently cannot remember a (the same one every time sheesh) simple bus number