Fuzzy's Farm

[teeville5]

BYFM, sounds like you had a great day there.

I've been meaning to stop to the mall, too, but my schedule doesn't work well for it and there is no way I will go from Thurs-Sun. Absolute madness. So I have set a date with my DD to go Tuesday. Just hope it isn't a trip through he** considering how close we are to Christmas.

CFL, I didn't say anything last night and won't say too much now, but just know that your mom will always love and care for you no matter what you think, say or feel. As a mom to 2 teenage daughters, I can tell you I would do anything for my girls even though I don't always understand them or the things they do and even when they frustrate me beyond belief. And trust me that this is a two way street. Just remember that and try to find a middle ground when things start going wonky. Hope you feel better.

 

[teeville5]

Morning MsB. Hope things are well with you.

eta- just read your post. Sounds like some mega stressers going on right now and I know how that can screw up things way fast. Hold tight and do your best to keep your chin up.

 

[Chickenfan4life]

How are your guts today CFL?
Hope you are feeling better! Cranberry juice, sauce, pills... lots and lots of cranberries and water!!!

My kidneys are still hurting tremendously. I can't sit comfortably. I cannot even lean down to flush the toilet!

I now need help like an old granny!

No offense!

AWESOME!!! I am 25 and I want one! LOL
Monsters Inc. is one of the best movies!



LONGEST RANT EVER:

MIL invited me to go shopping with her yesterday... However, she also invited SIL and her 2 kids.
I planned for my son to stay home with dad... When MIL got to my house she asks if DS is going I tell her no heis staying home with dad... Then they both ask him "Well, don't you want to go shopping and see your cousin?" (sidenote: BF gets all upset because he spends so little time with DS on the weekdays)
NO!!! I WANT TO GO SHOPPING ALL BY MYSELF AND BE ALONE FOR ONCE THIS WEEK

Of course, now he wants to go... THEN, BF says "No Bud you are going to stay home with me." Because I have blown a gasket at this point.
SOOOO he is crying and screaming that he wants to go...

So I take my coat off and get DS dressed and packed to go.
We call my SIL to see if she is ready to go. Her ex just dropped off the kids and she is frantically trying to get them baths because God knows he is incapable of taking care of his kids but SIL enjoys her alone time more than the safety of her children....
We get to MILs house and don't leave for the store for at least another hour and a half (did I mention I dressed both of her kids too?).... By now the kids are starving and we stop to get McDs and attempt to find a parking spot at the mall OMG!!!! People are crazy!!! WHY DID WE GO THERE YESTERDAY???? WHY????
We get in the store and MIL wants to switch DS into the double stroller with SILs daughter and leave her son (the PITA) with SIL... My imediate reaction is "No, she can watch her kids." By the way SIL is already off shopping while we are switching the kids!

We leave SILs son with her and begin shopping... Her daughter has kicked off her shoes and lost a bottle and "dropped" her toy....

SILs son... is 3.5 yrs old... finds us half way across the store!!! SIL is still on the other side of the store!! I am not even sure she knew he was gone!!!!

I bought BF a shirt with a certificate that I had won (so I got it free)
I AM READY TO GO... we are there for at least another hour.
I left the house at 11:30am... we left the mall at 4:30pm... 5 HOURS TO BUY ONE SHIRT!!!

NEVER AGAIN!!! NEVER NEVER NEVER AGAIN!!!!
I stayed at MILs and washed all 7 pups and got them fed and all the poop cleaned up... Got DS fed...Fed myself
Left to get pup food and go home
MIL and I brought SILs daughter with us...
I almost brought my pup home last night... she is still nursing though every once in a while.
SIL has had them on big dog food that she soaks in water... I have asked her several times to switch them to pup food...
Well, last night I gave her no excuse! I bought big dog food, puppy food, and paper towels and sent them home with MIL to her. She wanted Aldi brand dog food but Aldi was way out of the way last night.
I have not gotten a thank you... yet.
I got home with DS sound asleep at 8:30pm

That is not even all of it...

Wow... just, wow! That sounds like a nightmare! So that's what it's like to be a mom... yikes! Well, I am assuming you're glad to have a get-away like BYC as well.

 

[Chickenfan4life]

I'd try to catch up, but 700 posts is a lot..................I hope everyone's okay. I just read the last three pages:

I'm sorry. I know how you feel. Just the other day both my parent's called me a b*tch because I spilled some scratch on the porch (and swept it off, but that's not right because now the chickens are going to destroy the patch of dirt that will someday magically become grass if we never let the chickens touch it BUT continue to trod on it every time you leave or go in the house.). Then my dad said it's my fault he had to sleep on the couch last night, and that if I (quote), "keep up this b*tchy behavior he might just drive away someday". So I broke down crying, and he came over and said, "I'm sorry, I'd never leave my little girl. Whenever I leave I'll always come back. And if I do ever leave I'll take you with me and leave your mom and brother." Yeah, sure, that makes me feel better. -_-
Oh my.

That. Is Awesome!!!!!!

Thanks, MsBagawkbagawk. It sounds like you had a rough time, too.

 

[Chickenfan4life]

Anyone online? It says you guys are online? Where are you? Lol!

 

[fuzzybutt love]

I told you they were pretty! I think they are show quality, or very near it. My millie roos are definitely NOT, so i can see the differences!

LONGEST RANT EVER:

That is not even all of it...

This is DH's stepsister in a nutshell, i go through this every time i get involved with anything to do with her. Sometimes even if i'm just trying to live my day...... Sooo disorganized!
EQUALLY LONG RANT:
When we watched his sister's kids for that month last summer, this behavior make my live heck ! We tried to take "our" kids to the amusement park, the day kinda went like that. Hours late, then the kids had to eat, then we got there, then i had to leave because i had to go put the birds away.................i got to ride 3 rides!!! Have only been a few times in my life and i only got to ride 3 rides! Was P.O'd pretty bad. Then i found out that she borrowed the money for it from DH's dad, who had his money, and guess who fronted that? OK< that made sense; we can barely feed these 2 kids but you need to take you, your husband, and your 4 kids to the amusement park on our dime? And you'll pay back "when you can"????!!!!
And that was only the one day out of the month of it! Suddenly with kids we were expected to kid swap, and feed these kids that expect to each eat a different meal of starch and sugar............Yup, each kid eats a completely different order at dinnertime in their family! Nuts! We eat "the meal" together, no exceptions. Don't like it? Fine. Don't eat it. Don't expect a snack later!

Some days the family just drops in because all 4 kids have sports, sometimes 2! So they are always on the road and when they need to eat and pee sometimes they just come and descend upon us, dirty all my dishes and leave!!! And the kids spill all over and they aren't made to clean up even if i furnish a cloth; then i was expected to serve the kids drinks when they announced they were thirsty! I was like ummmmm...... there's the cups, there's the faucet, lol. Then i gotta watch the toilet, because the boys pee all over it and don't even flush it unless you tell them to go back....... ya, it's like that. Oh, and the kids steal too.

 

[NovaAman]

Sounds like everyone was having a joy of a weekend...

CFFL... Might I say, that being a teenager at one point in time in my life... being a daughter with a mother... At your age there will ever be an understanding between you and your mother. She doesn't understand you, you don't understand her. You guys love each other dearly, but you both also hate each other. This unfortunetly is a normal state of the teenage daughter/mother relationship. All you can do is muddle through. Try and remember that one day you will be a parent too, and you are not going to understand a darn thing your daughter does. You will forget that you were once a teenager and just as much an enigma to your mother as she was to hers and she was to hers before that. And no matter how much people like to think that their situation is different from what their mothers was.. It isn't. And when you become an adult, your mother and you will both forget the trial of early teen years... You mother will forget the instant she walked into your room, and you were busy playing with your paints when there was a mess on the floor. Instead of "wasting" your time fooling around, you could have been picking up the mess. She doesn't understand that to you, it wasn't fooling around. You won't understand that now. She won't understand that now. BUT when you have your own kids... maybe you will remember those things about your mother, and try not to repeat them. But you will.

And when your mother asks you to do something a certain way, though you may not like it, or disagree with it, remember, she is your mother, and it is so much easier to bite your tongue, do it her way, and she's happy. She doesn't see you then as a back talking disrespectful little brat who just can't do what she asks... She's happy, your life is happier. There is a saying and it is really so very true... When mama's not happy, no one is happy... I learned very quickly as a teen kid to "just do it" and I had a much easier time then doing what I really wanted to do. Fool around with my books, and paints and clay and plaster and my carving tools... Before I even sat down to mess with my arts, or be at my leisure, I made sure there was no reason for my mom or my dad to come in and yell at me for being lazy when there were obvious chores that needed attending...

See what I am saying?

I had my neice living with me for a year... In that year, she went from ot doing a darn thing if she didn't have to, to doing her chores. I told her, how is she going to run a house if she couldn't even pick up after herself, or seeing that something needs doing, not bothering unless you were asked now. No matter that I was the only one in the house to bring home the bacon... To come home to a house that is trashed, still having to cook dinner, maybe do laundry, mow the lawn, get groceries, vacuum... But to come in the door, to see her and my mom sitting on their bums and no one bothering to clean up the mess made in the bathroom by the 2 and 5 yr old. The kitchen in disarray, cuz no one bother to pick up after luncheon. AND to know that I still had so much to do before I could sit down and relax, and everyone thinking I was just so damnably witchy all the time... And then some days to dread coming home, and being surprised to see that someone vacuumed! Being surprised to see that I didn't have to clean the kitchen in order to make dinner...

See what I am saying?

Maybe they had been busy entertaining two very rambuncious boys all day, and were tired as hell too from them, and thinking to themselves, I can't wait till she gets home and get's these brats out of our hair. She's not had to deal with one chaotic situation after another all day... just had to drive around delivering papers... such an easy day...

See what I am saying?

I give you a big hug kiddo... Growing up is hell. Being a parent and trying to raise the next generation and give them what we didn't have, or thought we didn't have, is hell. But it is worth it in the end most times. Even the rip your hair out and scream to the top of your lungs years... If you don't hate your mother for at least 3 combined years of your life between puberty and your early 20s... Then something isn't right. Not 3 years in a row.. but 3 years all together...

 

[Chickenfan4life]

Sounds like everyone was having a joy of a weekend...

CFFL... Might I say, that being a teenager at one point in time in my life... being a daughter with a mother... At your age there will ever be an understanding between you and your mother. She doesn't understand you, you don't understand her. You guys love each other dearly, but you both also hate each other. This unfortunetly is a normal state of the teenage daughter/mother relationship. All you can do is muddle through. Try and remember that one day you will be a parent too, and you are not going to understand a darn thing your daughter does. You will forget that you were once a teenager and just as much an enigma to your mother as she was to hers and she was to hers before that. And no matter how much people like to think that their situation is different from what their mothers was.. It isn't. And when you become an adult, your mother and you will both forget the trial of early teen years... You mother will forget the instant she walked into your room, and you were busy playing with your paints when there was a mess on the floor. Instead of "wasting" your time fooling around, you could have been picking up the mess. She doesn't understand that to you, it wasn't fooling around. You won't understand that now. She won't understand that now. BUT when you have your own kids... maybe you will remember those things about your mother, and try not to repeat them. But you will.

And when your mother asks you to do something a certain way, though you may not like it, or disagree with it, remember, she is your mother, and it is so much easier to bite your tongue, do it her way, and she's happy. She doesn't see you then as a back talking disrespectful little brat who just can't do what she asks... She's happy, your life is happier. There is a saying and it is really so very true... When mama's not happy, no one is happy... I learned very quickly as a teen kid to "just do it" and I had a much easier time then doing what I really wanted to do. Fool around with my books, and paints and clay and plaster and my carving tools... Before I even sat down to mess with my arts, or be at my leisure, I made sure there was no reason for my mom or my dad to come in and yell at me for being lazy when there were obvious chores that needed attending...

See what I am saying?

I had my neice living with me for a year... In that year, she went from ot doing a darn thing if she didn't have to, to doing her chores. I told her, how is she going to run a house if she couldn't even pick up after herself, or seeing that something needs doing, not bothering unless you were asked now. No matter that I was the only one in the house to bring home the bacon... To come home to a house that is trashed, still having to cook dinner, maybe do laundry, mow the lawn, get groceries, vacuum... But to come in the door, to see her and my mom sitting on their bums and no one bothering to clean up the mess made in the bathroom by the 2 and 5 yr old. The kitchen in disarray, cuz no one bother to pick up after luncheon. AND to know that I still had so much to do before I could sit down and relax, and everyone thinking I was just so damnably witchy all the time... And then some days to dread coming home, and being surprised to see that someone vacuumed! Being surprised to see that I didn't have to clean the kitchen in order to make dinner...

See what I am saying?

Maybe they had been busy entertaining two very rambuncious boys all day, and were tired as hell too from them, and thinking to themselves, I can't wait till she gets home and get's these brats out of our hair. She's not had to deal with one chaotic situation after another all day... just had to drive around delivering papers... such an easy day...

See what I am saying?

I give you a big hug kiddo... Growing up is hell. Being a parent and trying to raise the next generation and give them what we didn't have, or thought we didn't have, is hell. But it is worth it in the end most times. Even the rip your hair out and scream to the top of your lungs years... If you don't hate your mother for at least 3 combined years of your life between puberty and your early 20s... Then something isn't right. Not 3 years in a row.. but 3 years all together...

I do understand. Thank you, Nova. Right now, my mom is extremely worried about me because I have kidney problems. She assists me all over the place because my kidneys hurt so bad that I can't even lean over enough to flush the toilet. She is really worried about me and now I realize how much I mean to her.

 

[NovaAman]

Lots of cranberry... lots of water.... I hope you aren't passing a stone, oh that is hello, and worse than labor!

 

[Chickenfan4life]

Lots of cranberry... lots of water.... I hope you aren't passing a stone, oh that is hello, and worse than labor!

Great... that makes me feel so great!