Fuzzy's Farm

[fuzzybutt love]

Oh mom.............

Make friends with a kitchen girl,
they have more influence than one might suppose. Much of an invalids joy comes from eating, and besides that the staff come sneak food and gossip from kitchens off and on..........(Not to mention that the kitchen is the supply of the home's coffee for the breakroom) and the cooks usually stick around for a long time so they can keep an eye out for a patient if they bond with you.
There are a million little extras that they can do, but will not if pushed too hard.

Kitchen girls can be stubborn! Try not to get frustrated, be patient........it will not be like at home, they will forget things that are small to them but big to you guys.................if you are firm but pleasant, it will go a long ways...........

Second to and just as important are the "activities" staff, they are the ones who will actively seek to get her involved to make new friends, so she won't feel as depressed and trapped.
VERY IMPORTANT!

 

[silver1313]

I gots a silkie hatch!!! and looks like another has pipped im just worried about them playing soccer with the remaining quail eggs still in there !!!

 

[teeville5]

Its Gardn City Hospital

Dr House said her pain is not warranted- that people with their knee replaced - to quote him- bone sawed OFF, are up and walking two days later- and that she didnt have that done.

He implied she shouldnt be in this much pain. I told him that he hasnt been blessed to know my mother- she doesnt ever take more than a Tylenol Arthritis for pain, she doesnt whine or complain, and she has a crazy high pain tolerance.

They had to give her blood yesterday. She is pretty upset about that- worries about getting disease. They say they test the blood, then made her sign a form stating she is aware that she could contract HIV, AIDS, Hepatitis, etc. She was mad about that.

Mom2, I sincerely feel sorry for your mom. No one should have to go through what she is right now especially with an unsympathetic doctor.
Personally, I think her doctor is an idiot. I am a person who has had her bone sawed off and I did not walk 2 days later on it. My left leg from knee to halfway down was replaced due to an accident and the bone couldn't be repaired. I didn't even attempt to walk on it for 3 months. And the pain, is he kidding? From some of the things you've described, I have no doubt your mom is in terrible pain. I really hope things can go better for her in the nursing home.
Your last comment saddened me. Brought back some memories and I can totally understand why your mom was so upset over that.

Best wishes for your mom.

 

[NovaAman]

YEAH! SILKIE BABIES!!!

Speaking of silkie babies... My pretty black silkie hurt its leg. I tried to see what the injury is, but I can not. I am she just sprained it. She's staying pretty close to mama, in the nest box with her... Hardly leaves her. I gave her some poultry drench, and am thinking I will go out here in a bit and give a bit of crushed aspirin... I just wish I had an 86 aspirin... just have the regular strength...

Anyway, I met a cousin that I didn't know existed. My uncle Steve has been gone for over 10 years. His son was adopted out as a baby. Well anyway, long story short, he had talked to my uncle several times, and then the adopted dad put a kabosh on it, and they ended up losing touch. My uncle had moved, called to give his son his new number and address, left a message on the answering machine and the adopted dad erased it, told him he erased it, and so, Doug left and quit speaking to his adopted parents for 7 years. Well, he finally was able to track the family down to my uncle Frank. My uncle frank got to break the news that my uncle steve had killed him self with a heroin OD. My uncle was in Nam... had a very very hard time. Anyway, turns out that about the time my uncle killed himself was shortly after the adopted dad erased the message and never heard a word from Doug again. That has to be hello... Anyway, I have all the family pictures from when my dad and his brothers were kids, and the army pictures from my uncle Steve.. I told Doug to get ahold of me in the near future, and I'd give him pictures of his father from babyhood up from what I have. And pictures of the aunt and uncles and grandparents he never got to know.

Anyway... going to get my trusty touch pad... and see what kind of word screw ups it can come up with.

 

[Mom 2em All]

I left my mom in prison. The most degrading demoralizing humiliating place to be. I have to get her out of there. No correction- I WILL get my mom out of there. NO WAY as long as I am alive she is staying in there. In fact, they cannot arrest me for taking her home. I couldnt live with myself- I have to.
oh its so horrible. I asked NICELY, believe it or not- if I could help her get a sponge bath and wash her hair. My mom is a clean freak normally- she showers twice a day- and the nurse said to me NO- you dont work here. She will be bathed on Thursday. THURSDAY????? !!!!!!!!!!! Bathed??? She doesnt need t be bathed. No bed rails on her bed. No bedside commode- a bathroom shared between two rooms, two doors. No locks. I have to get her out. I cant live with myself right now- much less if I leave her. Last night was the FIRST time I have left her and cried my eyes out.

I cant leave her there, and the doctor told me if I take her home she will die of a blood clot. I am seriously messed up. I feel GUILTY- I have never felt guilty when it came to my mom, and now I feel so **** bad

they strip them naked and do a 'skin assessment' there. Look at EVERY inch of their skin upon arrival.

She has to write her name in permanent black marker on all of her clothes- even her underwear. She had to send home her jewelry, includng her wedding ring.


I am seriously messed up friends and do not know what to do...
Teeville I am sorry for your leg. I know they have missed something. I just want to bring my mom home.
and ROBIN ignored my post yesterday

and I was here when she left. Mentally scarred me- I expected to read some quirk about catching that cat..nothing. yep. I dont think I can handle the rejection.

 

[fuzzybutt love]

Mom, you can take her off premises for visiting, perhaps get a sponge bath for her then? That isn't right. You should speak to the administrater about your treatment. Staff is REQUIRED to be pleasant to the family! They should have dry shampoo caps that can be put on and idk about how effective they are but it is an option if she's not ready for a shower. It is degrading, but they probably did the skin check for liability. They can't let you use the shower room, but i don't see why they couldn't give you a tub of water? Does her room have a sink? I'd bring some stuff from home and tell them what they can kiss.

My little facility even throws a little party for new arrivals? Sorry you had a bad experience,
nurse aids tend to get jaded and burnt out on that type of work quickly. It is demanding, and i hate to say it but most of the people who come in there aren't leaving; depressing for the workers, too. You know it's a temporary situation, they don't know your mom so they are thinking you are in denial, likely. Still, no reason to be that way to you!!!

Give it a week, see different staff on different shifts; if it continues perhaps it's the wrong place for her There are two distinct types of workers in this field of work- some workers see the family as an intrusion, another task on their never ending list of things to do.
The other type knows that most of the residents aren't lucky enough to get visitors, and will move the sun to make it nice as possible for you.
If this place is filled with the former than get her out! You are filled with a lot of heart, so should your workers be. You need to see it for a week to know for sure, i think. Blood clots truly are serious, so it is a toughy. Even different facilities on the same chain can be night and day different, so visit the other facilities as well and see if there is another option.

 

[fuzzybutt love]

I decided to post my only from-a-can holiday recipe to date, but it's so darn tasty........... For those on the fence about cranberries, this one's perfect! Tart, with a bit of tang. Gotta be sure to let the stuff gel pretty good in the first step, otherwise it won't set up in the mold though!

In large bowl dissolve 1 6oz pkg of strawberry jello with 1 cup boiling water. Drain 1 20 oz can crushed pineapple into a cup, add juice to jello. Stir in 1 16oz can whole berry cranberry sauce, 3 Tb lemon juice, and 1/2 ts nutmeg into the jello. Chill until mixture thickens (Looks like gel) Takes a couple to a few hours.........

Fold in 2 cups sour cream and pineapple, spoon into jello mold (grease if you are unsure) and voila! One dish down and don't have to be worried about

It comes out very pretty too, but it don't make a big mold of it so if you need quantity double the recipe! I won't eat cranberry any other way since trying this one; i have another jello recipe too but can't bring myself to deviate, i like it so much!

I got this one from a magazine about 8 years ago

 

[Gigiintheforest]

Mom, you can take her off premises for visiting, perhaps get a sponge bath for her then? That isn't right. You should speak to the administrater about your treatment. Staff is REQUIRED to be pleasant to the family! They should have dry shampoo caps that can be put on and idk about how effective they are but it is an option if she's not ready for a shower. It is degrading, but they probably did the skin check for liability. They can't let you use the shower room, but i don't see why they couldn't give you a tub of water? Does her room have a sink? I'd bring some stuff from home and tell them what they can kiss.

My little facility even throws a little party for new arrivals? Sorry you had a bad experience,
nurse aids tend to get jaded and burnt out on that type of work quickly. It is demanding, and i hate to say it but most of the people who come in there aren't leaving; depressing for the workers, too. You know it's a temporary situation, they don't know your mom so they are thinking you are in denial, likely. Still, no reason to be that way to you!!!

Give it a week, see different staff on different shifts; if it continues perhaps it's the wrong place for her There are two distinct types of workers in this field of work- some workers see the family as an intrusion, another task on their never ending list of things to do.
The other type knows that most of the residents aren't lucky enough to get visitors, and will move the sun to make it nice as possible for you.
If this place is filled with the former than get her out! You are filled with a lot of heart, so should your workers be. You need to see it for a week to know for sure, i think. Blood clots truly are serious, so it is a toughy. Even different facilities on the same chain can be night and day different, so visit the other facilities as well and see if there is another option.

I'm so sorry, Mom, that you are dealing with this. Fuzzy's exactly right - there are facilities that are great with their patients. If this one doesn't work out, you should visit others and see about getting her transferred. But yes, shifts are very different. You have to talk to the supervisor about her (as nicely as possible) and try to get a picture of what this facility is really like. Also, you can get online at your Dept of Human Services - it may not be called that in MI but it is the state agency that is responsible for licensing and checking nursing homes. That can tell you how many violations they have. If it's a lot, I'd try to get into a better one. But if it's not, maybe you can just wait to see how it goes after all the initial upset. I know in OK locks aren't on the bathroom doors because if a patient falls or has a heart attack or something they have to be able to get into the bathroom to help. I went through this with my stepmother and luckily, it was a wonderful place after the initial OMG she's in a nursing home phase. Your motherr has the best thing in the world going for her - YOU!

Fuzzy's exactly right. She's worked in these so REALLY knows what she is talking about. Staff are so important. They can make all the difference!

I'm wishing you the best for your mom. Just hang in there.

 

[fuzzybutt love]

Yes, it is a very different field of work. Takes a special kind of mentality not to get burned out, let yourself get jaded.

Unfortunately the majority of people drawn to this kind of work are attracted by the pay, and do not realize the other aspects of it. It takes a dedicated hiring person to sift through the negative nellies and actively seek out the ones that are best suited. The home i am at now is very tiny, everyone knows everyone! Staff turnover for the nurse aids is still very very high, but since it overall is a very nice atmosphere everyone does their best and takes good care of their patients.

 

[fuzzybutt love]

Again, i highly recommend the mousse! Mmmmmm! Gonna make some after i get out of work, don't know if i will have time to make a pie this year, horror!