Gender Confusion (Do I look like a woman?!)

[Beekissed]

You know how many women would KILL for hair like that?

Very beautiful hair, IMO. Maybe shove it under a baseball cap and put in a rub of snuff? All the teens around here look a lot like you but they sort of redneck it up with the hats and snuff, ya know?

See, if you would start a nasty addiction like snuff you could get by with the long hair......

Sorry, BB! Feeling silly tonight!

Hey, at least they haven't mistakenly thought you were pregnant when you were merely fat......

These scrub tops do nothing for a gal's figger!!!

 

[Wifezilla]

Has anyone else had this problem or mistaken someone's gender before? Share..?

I am 6' tall and muscular. If I had a dollar for every time someone called me "Sir"...sheesh!!​

 

[Luvducks]

You DO NOT look like a girl. This thread made me laugh so hard and you really need to rent or find the movie
with "PAT" in it. Now I need to find the movie so my husband and I can watch it again.

Hang in there not all people can see very well.

 

[lauralou]

You do have fabulous hair!

But seriously, it's just your age, plus the longish hair. Younger folks do tend to have an androgenous appearance, which goes away as they mature. So never fear, in a few years, no one will mistake you for a woman again.

 

[Camelot Farms]

My poor DS gets it all of the time

*Can I help you ladies?*
*Sorry Ma'am*
*Miss? Miss?*

He's 16 and liked to wear his hair long. I told him mistaken gender ID was part of the perils of his choice

He usually just shakes his head and walks away. Poor kid.

 

[deb1]

You look like a young man to me. I don't kow why the older man thought you were a girl.

You don't look any different then any of my son's friends.

Here is a story that still causes me to feel guilty. One time in Walmart, they were putting out samples. There was a young person in baggy clothing with waist length, black hair. Because the person was overweight, I assumed that the baggy clothing was to hide a weight problem. The server purposely ignored the young person's request for a sample. The teen had a gothic look about them so I assumed that the server was prejudiced. Growing angry, I said, "Why don't you give this young lady a sample, also." The poor child's eyes grew wide and looked horrified. Another woman who was standing closer said, "The young MAN probably needs to ask his mom first." Oh my. I would never hurt anyone's feelings especially a kid so I was horrified.

 

[GrayDragon]

I got called 'Sir' when I was eight months pregnant. And let's just say my feminine attributes were a tad prominent even before the hormones got to them.


Some people are just batty.

 

[Mahonri]

No doubt you must be a looker.

If you aren't Pat...

Are you Chris? Jan?

I knew two Chris' who were married to each other.

I also knew two Jans who were married to each other..

.... and just to clarify they were male and female in each couple.

Time to get a hair cut I suppose.

 

[mom'sfolly]

I've been called sir more than once. I'm 5'10' and over weight. I have curves, but I'm not super curvy. When I was skinny I was built like a boy, now I sort of look like a beer bellied guy with boobs and hips. I never got how someone could mistake me for a man though. I have girl hair and usually have jewelry on. Then I saw my sister from behind, she was wearing a coat, and the sheer mass of her (and me) might make someone automatically think man. The diet started soon after.....

 

[PortageGirl]

Awww, glad your sense of humor kicked in! One of my favorite sayings is, "Well, I could have laughed about it or cried about it, I decided neither would change the facts, but laughing feels better, so that's what I'll do."

I agree you shouldn't get a haircut if you like it the way it is, as you mature, there will be less of this happening. Since you don't want to cut it, (and not that it matters, but I like it too, just FYI) find some kind of not too mean but funny remark... I say not too mean because honestly most people don't deserve to be cut by your words if it's a simple mistake on their part. We all get busy sometimes and goof up by not paying enough attention.

In my case, if I don't just feel like letting it slide I just say "Excuse me?" and look them in the eye so they have to sort of snap awake and pay attention. But usually I decide not to embarass them... if the person is just annoying though, I might say something like "Well, that might surprise my mother, she always thought I was her daughter/son." (whichever applies) ... Do try to remember though, a shared laugh over something like this is much more fun than letting it ruin your day.