Got in a fight today...am i wrong?

[sred98]

I have been wondering how you are. I haven't seen you posting in a while. Sorry to hear about your ducks.

I know that it is really hard when no one understands how painful it is to lose a pet like a chicken or duck. People do think they are disposable and replaceable. It's sad, but true. My own family doesn't even understand when something happens to a chicken.

When you add to that teenage hormones and a low tolerance for stupid people like him

it is natural for you to want to blow up. But, you were at school. He was an idiot, and I totally agree he was baiting you.

But, you can't scream at school. You ignore him (hard as it may be!) and post about it here, where you can get support and sympathy from your BYC friends!

You have had such a rough year.

I hope things get better for you soon.

Shelly

 

[Starscream4Ever]

Some kids these days act so retarded and insane. . . I know how you feel.
One of my ducks got decapitated my something last night. It looks so sad when you find them dead. She was still sitting in a normal sit when we found her.

 

[horsejody]

That kid isn't worth worrying about. The real problem is that you are grieving for the ducks. Tell us what happened. Tell us about the ducks. Vent away. It may help. Then tell us about how you are going to get more ducks.

 

[saddina]

First good for you for not slugging the guy, I know it was tempting. You're young, there's every chance theat the kid was trying to "help" by telling the ducks didn't matter, so don't be so upset (happens when someone'd dog dies and the guy the next desk says "it's just a dog, get over it". At your age compassion and tact are still skills being learned. Once the guy says sorry (after realizing he's been a moron), not much more he can say. If you're friends, later you can explain that his remarks were hurtful, as the ducks are very much family to you. If you're not friends, later you can watch him say equally dumb things to girls and see karma in effect.

 

[TheDuckCrew]

.:The Bandit:. :

Some kids these days act so retarded and insane. . . I know how you feel.
One of my ducks got decapitated my something last night. It looks so sad when you find them dead. She was still sitting in a normal sit when we found her.

awww i am soooo sorry for your loss

whatever killed my baby went for its head i was told, i never saw the body.

but yes i guess i did overreact, they just mean so much. its like they're my children, not my ducks. and i do tend to have some anger issues which i should really address.
does it help any that school was over? lmao

 

[sundance]

I'm sorry for your loss, but you have lots of friends on BYC who understand. this kid may have no one.School today is hard every day, just remember just how many people here how understand and feel your loss to,

marrie

 

[texasgal]

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This is the most awesome advise .. I want to print it and give it to my kids!! Thanks!

 

[Blackbird]

I agree with The Chicken Lady and Horsejody, they gave excellent advise.

I do agree that the teacher's 'grow up' comment was very uncalled for.

 

[Turtle]

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I agree with all of the above. Keep your head up and your emotions calm and a bully will eventually give up just as others said.

 

[cmjust0]

First of all...

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Hindsight's 20/20, but right there's where you stop the kid and say "NEITHER WILL YOU."

Anyway..

Let me see if I'm getting this straight. After school one day, a kid makes a crude comment about how worthless your recently departed pets were.. You freak out and yell at him.. He apologizes after a couple minutes.. You're still mad. At some point later on, you're crying after recounting the story to your math teacher and you see the kid again.. You tell him you're still mad...he tells you to grow up. You freak out again and yell some more. The principle comes up, takes you both into her office, and tells you that you're not allowed to be upset because the kid apologized..

Is that right?

If so, I'd have asked the principle if someone shot her dog and immediately apologized, would she be like "Well...that's OK I guess."

KINDA DOUBT IT. Things don't work that way in the real world. You wanted validation -- there. You got it.

Now.. I want you to understand that I'm not saying it was a good idea to cry and sling snot, but if the principle really told you that you're not allowed to be upset once someone apologizes...well, that's just not a realistic expectation. I think what she may have been getting at was the idea that there's a certain freedom in forgiveness, and that if you spend your whole life being angry at everyone who deserves it...holy crap...you're not going to have time to do anything but be angry.

Here's what you gotta understand, kid.... Anger is like a cork. When you feel like you're up to your neck and about to drown, it's really tempting to pull that cork and open up the drain...

Problem is, you're in a boat.

Chew on that a while.


Sorry about your ducks.