Granny's gone and done it again

[campingshaws]

When I was a teen my very best (daresay only) friends were online. I'm still close with one of them. In college I learned how to go out in groups and make friends. As an introvert it's important to have a buffer: in college it was my roommate, and now it's usually my husband. Both happen to be extroverts, so I can hide under their wings and socialize and feel safe. Don't let your phone be your buffer! A sibling, cousin, dog, parent, or friend are better.

I believe in you!

 

[h2oratt]

Pecan pie in oven. Recipe on karo syrup bottle. Cornbread in oven for dressing making in am. Eggs boiled for deviled eggs. 6 eggs today. No polish. Their yolks are as big as LF eggs & very orange. Put 2 in the cornbread.

Yum!!

 

[h2oratt]

Flock master since you are a minor there are certain questions we can't ask you on this forum.

I don't know where you live or if you drive or have access to a car. The public library is an awesome place to volunteer at.

 

[prostar]

Alright cluckers. I need a bit of adulting advice.

Back story. Hubs and MiL don't have that great of a relationship. Haven't spoken since right before last thanksgiving. She did text me in the spring cause she wanted help on a garden project - uh sorry, I do work...anyway. When they would talk she'd be demanding and yelling at him if he didn't drop everything to jump at her whims. Based on the way she words things, she seems more concerned about what the other family members think that she doesn't know what her son is up to than what her son is actually up to. I tried with her when I moved down here...tried to smooth things over but she just kept digging herself down. She unfriended me off Facebook and I gave up. I'd rather not have hubs all stressed like he was anyway.

So she sent us a text last week of "oh we should put aside our differences and you should join us for Christmas dinner" hubs responded sorry we'll be moving. (Cause back then we thought we would be moving this weekend.) absolutely nothing from her since he sent that. Not a "where are you moving to", not a you'd be welcome to dine and dash, nothing. Just silence.

He just got a text from the eldest of his two younger half siblings...about how his mom was so upset and crying and we should join for dinner anyway.

Sigh. I don't even know what to say to that. I don't want to point out the moms shortcomings to the daughter and the reasons why we're not coming. I don't want to push my hubs to going if he doesn't want to (which he doesn't). I don't really want to bring that crazy back into our lives.

But on the other hand part of me thinks blah blah she's family, maybe it would give a chance to set down some
Ground rules of engagement, remind her that her son is a grown man and gasp. Does have his own plans and schedules.

Sigh.

 

[miss heny]

happy Christmas y'all.

 

[Wishing4Wings]

Quote: That's cool. Remember though, her reasons for being online a lot are probably similar to yours... maybe she's a homebody too, so if her social skills aren't quite perfect (blushing and saying she had to go), we can all understand that. Volunteering is a great way to meet people, but try to find places where you will encounter people your own age, like the library or maybe an animal shelter. I don't imagine you met too many teens at the hospital, even though it was a good experience. Taking lessons is another way-- dancing (they always need guys!), art, photography, martial arts... whatever you are interested in. Or community groups like astronomy, sports, bird watching, theater. Your church must have a youth group, or there's 4h or FFA. All of these things will be harder than sitting at home playing video games, but the upside is you will meet real people in person!

Actually, you sound a lot like my older son who just turned 18 after graduating high school. I can't say too much, I have to respect his privacy, but I will say that he had some anxiety about becoming an "adult" and the changes that were happening in his life. It wasn't like he had to suddenly know everything, his dad and I are still here to help. Once he got used to the junior college routine, he felt better about the changes, and now he is even working part time, which he likes better than school. None of it would have happened though, if we hadn't required it. Much easier to sit there playing games online. Easier, but not necessarily better.

Church of the Holy Sepulchre


Church of the Nativity



Basilica of the Annunciation


Merry Christmas!

Not my pics.

Thank you, Benny! So much history and tradition, just beautiful. @Akrnaf2

Happy Hanukkah to you! This is my favorite Hanukkah song by The Barenaked Ladies, a Canadian rock band. They chose their name hoping more people would listen to them!

 

[miss heny]

I is not sure my advice is wanted here so gonna hush

 

[Wishing4Wings]

Merry Christmas to everyone! My mantle is full of beautiful cards, thank you all.

Sister will be here in a few minutes to help me get some cooking done for tomorrow, so I can't stay long. Hope everyone is having a great day.


Prostar, the only advice I have is to let your husband make the call. Right or wrong, it is his mother. If you force or guilt him into going, and it is not a happy time, who will get the blame?

 

[Granny Hatchet]

So tired. Dinner was good , ham very tender. No one even got to pie. I took them home and now cant keep my eyes open. LOL might take a little nap.

 

[campingshaws]

I'm trying to load a pic for Benny and I'm having a time of it.