Granny's gone and done it again

[Granny Hatchet]

It took me 3 months to get right around $300. in food stamps for 5 kids. There are 6 of them but one was old enough to take care of himself.

 

[BigBlueHen53]

Did she give the kids up or did you have to take them and how long have you had them? I had to do foster care when I got my grandkids.

I had nothing to do with it. The state had been taking the kids away from her for years, since GC was two, but I didn't have a place of my own. I'd been working as a live-in caregiver for several years before I married DH. All the kids were in and out of foster care. Then one day the state called me and said they were looking for permanent placement for the oldest girl
(now GC), when she was 10, and were we interested? I asked DH how he felt about being a daddy and he said of course! So we started the process. About six months later they called again and demanded to know why we didn't want the youngest, then 6. I said no one told us he was available, of course we wanted him! For a while we thought we were getting the middle two, too, but then the state decided not. Eventually we did get these two. DD was so angry. She certainly did not give them up willingly but ... they weren't safe with her.

 

[BigBlueHen53]

GC is now 23, so ... 13 years. We've been married 14.

 

[Granny Hatchet]

Wow Blue! So there were 4? Where are the other 2 now? That's a lot to add on to a new marriage.
Why did state not give the other 2? Did they give you a reason?

 

[Granny Hatchet]

I used to want to foster so badly.

 

[BigBlueHen53]

Wow Blue! So there were 4? Where are the other 2 now? That's a lot to add on to a new marriage.
Why did state not give the other 2? Did they give you a reason?

The older of the two middle boys was doing really well in the foster home he was in, and it was decided to leave him there. He did in fact grow up in that home, went on to college and is about to graduate from college, so that did prove to be the best choice for him. He is GC's full brother.

The next youngest, who is our boy's full brother (DD was married twice), had some serious issues and grew up mostly in group homes but was in and out of foster homes. He just graduated hs and is doing real well out on his own now. I don't think he plans college but does have a job and is doing well. He calls me more often than any of the other grandkids. He's my boy!

 

[Granny Hatchet]

The older of the two middle boys was doing really well in the foster home he was in, and it was decided to leave him there. He did in fact grow up in that home, went on to college and is about to graduate from college, so that did prove to be the best choice for him. He is GC's full brother.

The next youngest, who is our boy's full brother (DD was married twice), had some serious issues and grew up mostly in group homes but was in and out of foster homes. He just graduated hs and is doing real well out on his own now. I don't think he plans college but does have a job and is doing well. He calls me more often than any of the other grandkids. He's my boy!

This is awesome Blue. A happy ending to a stressful beginning for those children and all because of you.

 

[microchick]

Granny, you need to go to the director of nursing along with the social services office and tell them what happened. Lodge a complaint, raise hell if you have to but make them listen. That is totally unprofessional behavior on the part of that nurse and all involved and something I would have never done to the family of one of my residents.

All involved should be disciplined. Totally unacceptable behavior.

 

[BigBlueHen53]

This is awesome Blue. A happy ending to a stressful beginning for those children and all because of you.

Thanks, Granny. Really, all bc of DH. If he hadn't married me I wouldn't have had a home to offer them. If he hadn't been the kind of man he is, to say "of course!" to a couple of kids at the age of ... 55? or so... to still be working to support them and me at the age of 69 ... he's the one!

 

[BigBlueHen53]

Granny, you need to go to the director of nursing along with the social services office and tell them what happened. Lodge a complaint, raise hell if you have to but make them listen. That is totally unprofessional behavior on the part of that nurse and all involved and something I would have never done to the family of one of my residents.

All involved should be disciplined. Totally unacceptable behavior.

I would put it in writing, lodge a formal complaint and make sure it goes in her file. How many others has she treated this way? Maybe she needs to find another kind of employment.