She can just get over it granny, you are allowed to change your mind. The van works out best for your needs & she was just given a car that needs a minor repair. There is no guarantee how long the van will even go down the road & it is YOURS. Hopefully it will be good for you for a while. It would be pretty difficult to haul chicken supplies in your mom's old car. Plus it is so hard for you to get in & out of. And if dd is trying to punish you by not talking, she is acting like a child. That's how my dad would act when he didn't get something he wanted. I'M SORRY that she can't see EVERYTHING that you & Tom do for her & her family. You owe her nothing, not even an explanation if you don't want too. Love you hun, hope we didn't wear you out too much with our visit