Your business, your problem but carrying debt for toys isn't a good financial position. It is bad enough when people pay high interest on cards because that is the only way they can pay for medical expenses. My ex Brother in law had a plaque on his boat that said "the one who dies with the most toys wins". Note the "ex", sister got sick of it.
Get the second woman and she can wash the dishes. Clean the house too!
Um, washing dishes in the sink is usually accomplished with soap! How do you wash the things that don't fit in the dishwasher?
DD1 is intolerant, don't think there is a test that shows that. Her symptom is extreme fatigue. It is not easy to get rid of all gluten.